Are my standards a problem?

[JimGje77]

37 minutes ago, FredEire said:

Yep. That's the challenge.

You learn as life goes on, experience is the big advantage of age.

 

Is it really a challenge? Or do I just have to claim my workers' rights?

[FredEire]

8 minutes ago, JimGje77 said:

 

Is it really a challenge? Or do I just have to claim my workers' rights?

The challenge of employment is to work to live not live to work.

The dream of a lot of people is to spend their days on a beach somewhere and passively make a lot of income, which is rare but possible. Other people might get bored living like this and crave a 9-5.

A good middle ground is to find something you love doing, that stimulates you and has you always learning and doing something new.

Then again some people hate not knowing exactly what they're going to do every day and literally do not care what they're doing as long as it makes them money.

Like relationships the answer again is fluid, not so rigid. It very much depends on you and what you want personally.

Edited Thursday at 01:11 PM by FredEire

[Gebidozo]

2 hours ago, JimGje77 said:

thats not true we are exchanging opinions here, your advice is honest, but I've just seen so many 40 year old people who gave up dating even in my family, this scenario scares me, I feel like when you grow old is much more difficult to meet new people, not only lovers but even freinds

Well, all I can tell you is that I personally know many people who are dating at the age of 40 and much beyond.

One guy I know got married when he was 60.

Another one is still dating and looking for “the one”, and he is 65.

I knew this lady who got remarried at the age of 75. 

I got into the best relationship of my life at the age of 47.

[JimGje77]

36 minutes ago, Gebidozo said:

Well, all I can tell you is that I personally know many people who are dating at the age of 40 and much beyond.

One guy I know got married when he was 60.

Another one is still dating and looking for “the one”, and he is 65.

I knew this lady who got remarried at the age of 75. 

I got into the best relationship of my life at the age of 47.

your comment makes me feel like I'm still extremely young

[Gebidozo]

10 minutes ago, JimGje77 said:

your comment makes me feel like I'm still extremely young

That’s because you are

[FredEire]

1 hour ago, JimGje77 said:

your comment makes me feel like I'm still extremely young

Yes, I know many people feel it your age but you're not even remotely "old". The sooner you realise how early you are in life, how much potential you have to develop and become what you want to become, the more you'll enjoy life.

They say youth is wasted on the young and that's because for some reason your teens and early 20s are the time most people spend fretting over absolute bs. When reality hits and you start to get more and more practical problems stacking up in your life, the more you realise there is absolutely no point sweating things that really dont matter and just enjoy the present moment.

The earlier you realise, the freer you will be to just enjoy your youth.

[JimGje77]

2 hours ago, FredEire said:

Yes, I know many people feel it your age but you're not even remotely "old". The sooner you realise how early you are in life, how much potential you have to develop and become what you want to become, the more you'll enjoy life.

They say youth is wasted on the young and that's because for some reason your teens and early 20s are the time most people spend fretting over absolute bs. When reality hits and you start to get more and more practical problems stacking up in your life, the more you realise there is absolutely no point sweating things that really dont matter and just enjoy the present moment.

The earlier you realise, the freer you will be to just enjoy your youth.

You’re absolutely right in what you’re saying, and I agree that we shouldn’t get hung up on things that don’t really matter, especially at this age.
For me though, there’s also a balance to it: enjoying the moment doesn’t necessarily mean living recklessly as if there’s no tomorrow.

Life is short, yes, but to truly enjoy it and build something meaningful for the future, you need a bit of thought, care and measured decisions.
So yes to living in the present  just with one eye on what comes next.

[FredEire]

24 minutes ago, JimGje77 said:

You’re absolutely right in what you’re saying, and I agree that we shouldn’t get hung up on things that don’t really matter, especially at this age.
For me though, there’s also a balance to it: enjoying the moment doesn’t necessarily mean living recklessly as if there’s no tomorrow.

Life is short, yes, but to truly enjoy it and build something meaningful for the future, you need a bit of thought, care and measured decisions.
So yes to living in the present  just with one eye on what comes next.

Yep I agree.

I think you just have to keep in mind that you can't really plan for life and have any guarantee of things going exactly how you'd like.

You could be a millionaire with a wondeful wife and a successful company, and within a week your wife could leave you and the business could go bust.

All you can really do is your best at any given moment and roll with life's punches, and don't stay in something thst makes you miserable because youre afraid of letting go. I've learned that its not particularly useful to try and solve or explain every setback in your life because quite often you can't have an answer and even if you knew it wouldn't be any help.

[basil67]

11 hours ago, JimGje77 said:

this is complicated, for example if a woman I like is from middle class, then she ticks 2 checkboxes already, I think like those things are 100% or 0%

These things exist on a scale.   Say a woman is motivated, did well at school, works part time while going to university on a scholarship to study for a profession....but also comes from a lower class background?   Are you really going to pass on her because her parents are poor?

Edit to add: how would you know she comes from a lower class without asking?   

 

Edited Thursday at 11:10 PM by basil67