ikonik Posted January 2 Posted January 2 so this is a different gym girl, but yesterday, a girl customer at the gym, said hi to me super excitedly, she was on her own when normally she's with a guy who i assume is her bf but recently ive seen them come at seperate times. one time i saw him hold her waist. when she came in she asked how i am, i asked how her new years was, then she said she's trying to come earlier for the new year, then i was like it's not really as busy as i expected it to be, she was like probably because everybody's hungo over then she went to work out. obviously this was just small talk, but what stood out to me is when when she finished stretching she looked at me and smiled until i noticed and smiled back.i saw her before she noticed me but i dont think she noticed me noticing her, when she got finished up she came by and asked what time we close and said she might come back,i also asked how she enjoyed the earlier hours. this was like the most i've ever talked to her, before i was just saying greeting her. is this flirty? Quote
Gebidozo Posted January 2 Posted January 2 How on Earth is this flirty? This is just being normal and friendly. 2 Quote
Author ikonik Posted January 2 Author Posted January 2 (edited) I thought the smile was more than I'm used to usually people just walk by fast and smile briefly and that's it. Edited January 2 by ikonik Quote
petee Posted January 2 Posted January 2 5 hours ago, ikonik said: I thought the smile was more than I'm used to usually people just walk by fast and smile briefly and that's it. This is sounding a bit creepy, you may need to talk to friends or a counsellor about these almost continuous feelings and urges. By the sound of it you seem to attach to people that offer normal pleasantries. Quote
Gebidozo Posted January 3 Posted January 3 7 hours ago, ikonik said: I thought the smile was more than I'm used to usually people just walk by fast and smile briefly and that's it. Please stop interpreting women’s smiles or other friendly gestures as flirting. I’m a man and even I feel a bit creeped out when I read this. Quote
smackie9 Posted January 4 Posted January 4 Just because she seems friendly flirty, doesn't mean she's rolling out the welcome mat. Quote
Author ikonik Posted January 12 Author Posted January 12 I don't think this is crazy, the other day she stopped by to talk 3 times, one time she brought up that she was trying to find her EX's jacket and I joked it's probably in the trashh behind you,, another time she came up asking if we had a massage gun, another time as she was leaving she stopped to talk for ten minutes. We talked about her passion for bodybuilding, she mentioned she's going to another gym for a couple months because she really wants to avoid her EX but will likely be back. We asked each other where we live and she asked about how early I have to get there. The other day she asked if I'll be in later that day around 3, that's when she'd be doing her stretches.. Ithink these are all signs of interest. I don't think I'm crazy for thinking someone who smiled at me and stopped by to talk 3 times makes me crazy, I thought this is at least curious behavior and substantially more than someone who's just being friendly does. Quote
Gebidozo Posted January 13 Posted January 13 (edited) 4 hours ago, ikonik said: I don't think this is crazy, the other day she stopped by to talk 3 times, one time she brought up that she was trying to find her EX's jacket and I joked it's probably in the trashh behind you,, another time she came up asking if we had a massage gun, another time as she was leaving she stopped to talk for ten minutes. We talked about her passion for bodybuilding, she mentioned she's going to another gym for a couple months because she really wants to avoid her EX but will likely be back. We asked each other where we live and she asked about how early I have to get there. The other day she asked if I'll be in later that day around 3, that's when she'd be doing her stretches.. Ithink these are all signs of interest. I don't think I'm crazy for thinking someone who smiled at me and stopped by to talk 3 times makes me crazy, I thought this is at least curious behavior and substantially more than someone who's just being friendly does. You started this topic asking other people’s opinions on whether her behavior is flirty or just friendly. So far, three people told you it was just friendly and nothing indicated romantic interest in you on her side. Two out of these three people pointed out that insisting that a girl is romantically interested in you simply because she smiles at you and chats with you is a bit creepy. You’re free to listen to our opinions or ignore them. By the way, nobody here called you “crazy”, so I’m not sure who or what exactly you’re responding to when denying that. Edited January 13 by Gebidozo Quote
ExpatInItaly Posted January 13 Posted January 13 8 hours ago, ikonik said: , I thought this is at least curious behavior and substantially more than someone who's just being friendly does. So ask her to meet you for a coffee, then. That will tell you exactly where she stands. 1 Quote
FredEire Posted January 18 Posted January 18 I think this is maybe the 5th thread I have seen in the last few months from different users saying they work in a gym and theyre wondering if a girl is interested. Are they all you OP? Or maybe we just have a lot of gym employees coming on here lol. Nothing really here to suggest she is interested, or not, maybe... but if you're wondering for God's sake just introduce a reason to meet up for a coffee into the conversation. If she's into you she'll jump at the chance and if not she'll make an excuse or just say like "Oh yeah Im really busy but maybe some day when I'm free". Then you'll have your answer and you've shot your shot while keeping it respectful, and you don't have to come on Loveshack overanalysing micro-signals. There is never going to be a full green light unless she's being over the top obvious, if you get a flirty vibe and she is receptive go for it. 1 Quote
Sanch62 Posted January 18 Posted January 18 16 hours ago, FredEire said: There is never going to be a full green light unless she's being over the top obvious, if you get a flirty vibe and she is receptive go for it. Right. A bunch of strangers who don't know the people and weren't there to pick up the context can't tell you very much. If you pick up signals, offer an invitation to lunch or a cup of coffee. Interested people will either take you up on that or suggest another time or place that's better for them. If they turn you down, you can offer that the invitation is open if she ever wants to take you up on it. That's how to get your answers, not a crystal ball reading from strangers. Good luck! Quote
MarriageRealist Posted 7 hours ago Posted 7 hours ago On 1/2/2026 at 11:19 AM, ikonik said: so this is a different gym girl, but yesterday, a girl customer at the gym, said hi to me super excitedly, she was on her own when normally she's with a guy who i assume is her bf but recently ive seen them come at seperate times. one time i saw him hold her waist. when she came in she asked how i am, i asked how her new years was, then she said she's trying to come earlier for the new year, then i was like it's not really as busy as i expected it to be, she was like probably because everybody's hungo over then she went to work out. obviously this was just small talk, but what stood out to me is when when she finished stretching she looked at me and smiled until i noticed and smiled back.i saw her before she noticed me but i dont think she noticed me noticing her, when she got finished up she came by and asked what time we close and said she might come back,i also asked how she enjoyed the earlier hours. this was like the most i've ever talked to her, before i was just saying greeting her. is this flirty? I think this is a nice sign that she’s getting comfortable around you. The convo was a bit longer than usual, she smiled, and came back to ask you something — that’s not random. It shows she notices you and feels at ease talking to you. That said, it still sits more in the “friendly and familiar” lane than obvious flirting. At the gym, once people recognize a face, they naturally open up a bit more. The smile and small talk are good signs of comfort, not necessarily signals of interest. If it ever turns into her finding reasons to chat longer, asking more personal stuff, or lingering around you, that’s when it starts to look more like flirting. For now, it’s a positive interaction — just don’t overthink it. Let it build naturally and see if the pattern continues Quote
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