riobikini Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 An important link to 'Mr. Serial Dater', a phenomenally interesting, flambouyant, and carelessly dangerous character women often encounter. Here's the link: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=681052 -Rio
BlahBlahQueen Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 $hit. I think he got me. What do I do now? Either you guys are making me extremely paranoid, or my guy is fundamentally defective. I'm starting to wonder what dude could live up to this forum's criteria.
Author riobikini Posted January 18, 2006 Author Posted January 18, 2006 BBQ, See all the comments on this post via the link below....they are posted in this forum under the heading, 'Coping'. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t79576/ -Rio
Lilly Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 Hi! I read your message and the thread on serial dating. It fit the description of a guy I dated to a T. I couldn't believe it when I was reading the thread. He was exactly the way you described a serial dater. He was 41 years old and had never been married. We went out several times and he alway took me to the most wonderful places. He was very knowledgeable on everything and treated me absolutely fabulous. The most perfect restaurants, he drove the mercedes, etc. Then, just like you said, we were supposed to have dinner at my house and when I called to confirm, he cancelled and I never heard from again until two months later. He called me up and said he had lost my phone number. I went out with him again, and he did the whole thing over again. Also, just like you said, he wasn't that great in bed. However, I didn't sleep with him until we had gone out on about five or six dates. My question is, do these serial daters come back again to the same person for a repeat? I thought they moved on to the next person. If he is a serial dater, why did he come back to me again after two months, just to do the same thing over and then disappear again? Any ideas on this or is he really a serial dater?
Author riobikini Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 RE: Lilly: " My question is, do these serial daters come back again to the same person for a repeat? I thought they moved on to the next person. If he is a serial dater, why did he come back to me again after two months, just to do the same thing over and then disappear again? " Lilly, I can't say for sure whether your guy was a dyed-in-the-wool serial dater, but he certainly bears some striking characteristics. Mr. Serial Dater actually has several cousins. Some of them are: Mr. Flake Date, the very suave-but-demanding Don Napoleon, (who is often dangerous, by the way), Mr. Casanova The Romantic, and the very romantic but very non-committal Mr. Nice Guy, (every town has at least one), who is a perpetual bachelor, but just can't seem to find the 'right' girl....hmmmmm. Since those are the primary categories many of our heartaches come from, it's probable you met up with one of them. I'd love to go into detail here on LS about each one of those guys, -and just may, someday soon, -but for now, I want to offer you consolation: you are so much better off without any one of those characters, and are quite the lucky one to be able to even talk about it without mentioning that therapy was needed to cure you in the aftermath. I congratulate you, -your intuition is working! And, -yes- he'll probably re-appear when you least expect it, -just tell him you found someone you're totally, head over heels in love with: YOU! -and send him packing. (Smile) Take care. -Rio
Author riobikini Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 The distant 'second cousin' of Mr. Serial Dater, the 'Dunno-What-I-Want-Guy' (not mentioned in my previous post, above), was the one I was involved with recently. He's pretty common and most of us have met him. He keeps his thoughts and feelings to himself, so you never really know anything about him, -and he's often only along for a short stint of 'courting', romance, and, of course, sex. With him, the brain cells responsible for forming thoughts about any commitment or relationship-defining resolutions or expectations operate s-l-o-w-e-r than molasses in winter. I don't know about his feelings, -I realize, now, I never truly saw any. He doesn't talk much, -and when he's 'uncomfortable' with any expectations you may have of relationship, he'll just fade away and slip into the same pattern with someone else unsuspecting, only to repeat it. Really sad f*cking way to live, actually. And empty as hell, I imagine. -Rio
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