Friend sending gym selfies to girlfriend...

[Interstellar]

You’re 80 percent sure? so that means it’s not 100 percent, even if it’s 99 percent you’re still not at 100 percent.

 

[Acacia98]

OP, I think you have two options:

1. Have an honest conversation with her about it. After all, technically speaking, she hasn't done anything wrong. You're just wondering whether your mutual friend has crossed a line.

2. Quietly observe her over time to see if her behavior changes in ways that worry you. 

Personally, I'd opt for the second one because with the first one, depending on how the conversation goes, one could come across as a jealous, controlling person.

[MsJayne]

She knew him before she met you, if they were going to have some sort of interlude they could have done it then. I think it's more likely that he's just a dude who thinks he's pretty hot stuff and probably sends his gym pics to every person he knows because he thinks other people want to admire him as much as he admires himself. You could get a lot of hilarity out of this if you look at it the right way, make a joke out of it with your girlfriend. 

[Gaeta]

Just saying....l have male friends and they don't - would never, send me pictures from the gym with their shirt off. It's not what adults friends do.

[Sony12]

2 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Just saying....l have male friends and they don't - would never, send me pictures from the gym with their shirt off. It's not what adults friends do.

Are your male friends 21 years old? Late teens and many people into their 20's enjoy showing off their bodies. The guy is probably sending those pics to lots of his social media and real life friends. 

[Gaeta]

3 hours ago, Sony12 said:

Are your male friends 21 years old? Late teens and many people into their 20's enjoy showing off their bodies. The guy is probably sending those pics to lots of his social media and real life friends. 

So? OP and his gf are not in their early 20s and this juvenile behavior is not welcome. The 21 yo should be told.

I have a 21 yo daughter and she has a boyfriend. Her and her bf have several male friends in commun. I will ask her if this would be normal for her to get shirt-off gym pictures.

[Gaeta]

11 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

have a 21 yo daughter and she has a boyfriend. Her and her bf have several male friends in commun. I will ask her if this would be normal for her to get shirt-off gym pictures.

So my daughter said if she received pictures like that it would be creepy! I asked what her boyfriend would think (he's 20) and she said he would say shirtless pictures are innapropriate. 

Edited Tuesday at 06:52 PM by Gaeta

[Sony12]

40 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

So my daughter said if she received pictures like that it would be creepy! I asked what her boyfriend would think (he's 20) and she said he would say shirtless pictures are innapropriate. 

And that is what two people said. And without knowing the types of personalities those two people have those statements don't mean much.

Look we live in an age where people load up their sex videos onto the internet for other people to watch if they want to. Showing off gym photos is extremely mild compared to what is out there with just a couple clicks of a button.

I admit it is a little odd that they are hanging out with someone so much younger but some people enjoy being around young people. They may not fit in well with other people in their mid 30's who have stable lives with good jobs and kids at home. 

Edited Tuesday at 07:32 PM by Sony12

[smackie9]

OK we all can agree this is inappropriate. The only solution is to solve this is the OP grows a set and tells this guy to quit it. Then he can go explain it to his GF. Probably would clear this all up tout de suite. 

[Sanch62]

You've entered a pre-existing relationship between these two people. You've encouraged the guy to send you such pics, which tells him that you endorse sending such pics. So it's up to you to let your friend know that you'd prefer he doesn't send body pics to your GF, but you'll need to make room for the fact that if this was a pre-existing practice between them, he'll view that as an assertion of control over his relationship with her that he doesn't welcome.

Either you trust your GF, or you don't. If not, you get to decide whether that's an insecurity on your part, or whether she's demonstrated untrustworthy behavior. But trying to manage her pre-existing relationship with this friend isn't likely to go well for you. Decide whether the stress is worth such an effort.