Are girls who love cooking a super rare breed these days?

[longtry]

I just can't seem to find decent girls with a passion for cooking. Even in my developing nation, fast food and especially delivery service have deeply penetrated the society, so everywhere around me girls just focus on their looks and vacations, not homemaking.

I tried the usual suspects: cooking groups on social media, and offline classes. Problems are, nowadays online groups are just a place for businesses to ad, while in-person classes are not only few & far between, but also generally for those who can't do it (yet), not passionate cooks. Popular dating apps in my country don't have the feature to filter based on this, and I highly doubt those apps anyway because of their conflict of interest.

What should I do? I just want to be a jovial guinea pig, testing all the dishes she wants to try. I don't know if this is the right place to post, kindly advise me on that too. Btw, can this thread also be a shameless plug for my availability? In that case, I'm happy to provide more details about myself. Thanks!

[Gaeta]

Are you a good experimental cook yourself?

[Els]

2 hours ago, longtry said:

What should I do? I just want to be a jovial guinea pig, testing all the dishes she wants to try.

I mean, this is a weird reason to search for a partner? If you like tasting new dishes, why don't you experiment with cooking new dishes yourself?

But in all seriousness, if you live in a developing country then I think the number of people who love cooking in the younger generation is likely to be quite low. I don't know exactly which country you live in, but most of them are stuck in the worst spot to be in -- where capitalism and industrialization have caught on full-steam, and some social changes have made their way through, but labor laws and worker protections are still lacking. So young women are often in a difficult situation -- unlike their grandmothers, they are expected to work full-time because a household can't survive on one income anymore, and they're likely to work long hours due to the work culture so they don't have a ton of free time, but gender roles and expectations still haven't fully modernized. I don't envy them, for sure.

If it really matters so much to you that your partner is a great cook, two possible ways you can achieve this are being a great cook yourself and dating fellow foodies, or just earning an extremely high income and advertising for a "tradwife" I suppose.

Edited Sunday at 04:37 PM by Els

[Lotsgoingon]

Why not cook yourself? The days of assuming a woman should cook and like to cook are quickly disappearing. In fact, I am not sure "women" in general ever really liked cooking (which was often part of their job in the family) anymore than dad "liked" going to work! 

Start cooking and experimenting yourself! 

Edited Sunday at 05:17 PM by Lotsgoingon

[Els]

59 minutes ago, Lotsgoingon said:

Why not cook yourself? The days of assuming a woman should cook and like to cook are quickly disappearing. In fact, I am not sure "women" in general ever really liked cooking (which was often part of their job in the family) anymore than dad "liked" going to work! 

This. I mean, there are people who genuinely love cooking, but they aren't any more likely to be of one gender than the other, and also they are greatly outnumbered by the people who like being cooked for...

Which is why I chuckled when I read the OP's last paragraph about the "shameless plug", lol. Like, dude, besides the fact that LS isn't really a place for that sort of thing... you've told us literally nothing about yourself except the fact that you like being cooked for! Guess what -- most of us enjoy having others cook for us, it's why restaurants charge YOU instead of the other way around...  

As a woman I really, really like the fact that my husband enjoys cooking, so I kinda understand the appeal? But it would be messed up to seek out a partner specifically for that reason. I just got lucky.

[ShyViolet]

Are you looking for a woman to cook for you, like some kind of 1950's housewife?  If you're so interested in cooking, then get into cooking yourself.  I think this is a weird "requirement" of a partner.

[longtry]

11 hours ago, Gaeta said:

Are you a good experimental cook yourself?

I'm not (though I think I might make a good one, as I invented a new recipe. Just that I feel it won't ever be my passion). I believe in the complementary nature of relationships when it comes to some aspects, like food.

9 hours ago, Els said:

most of them are stuck in the worst spot to be in -- where capitalism and industrialization have caught on full-steam, and some social changes have made their way through, but labor laws and worker protections are still lacking. So young women are often in a difficult situation -- unlike their grandmothers, they are expected to work full-time because a household can't survive on one income anymore, and they're likely to work long hours due to the work culture so they don't have a ton of free time, but gender roles and expectations still haven't fully modernized.

Spot on. I read about the transition of a 1-income family to the everyone-works model a few weeks ago. Capitalism has been horrible.

 

9 hours ago, Lotsgoingon said:

The days of assuming a woman should cook and like to cook are quickly disappearing

That's not what I assume. In fact, my OP's very title suggests that most women don't like to cook. That's why I look for those who love it. My assumption is that, if a girl fancies cooking, she'll love having someone who appreciates her art.

52 minutes ago, ShyViolet said:

I think this is a weird "requirement" of a partner.

I believe I've seen weirder stuff, like "I only date tattooed people", or girls looking for blue-eyed men exclusively. Besides, a passion for cooking isn't my only criterion, but it acts as a nice filter. From that alone, I can deduce with high confidence that she's not into unhealthy junk food, and that she's probably of the 'tradwife' type that Els mentioned. 

8 hours ago, Els said:

you've told us literally nothing about yourself except the fact that you like being cooked for!

OK, here's something about me. I'm a straight male, in my 30s, tall & rather lean, reticent & good-looking (I think ), don't smoke nor drink, read nightly, exercise in tiny bursts throughout the day, try to meditate daily, and fast 1 day a week. As an aspired member of the FIRE movement, I'm not a fan of materialism, but I do spend on things like an onsen/sauna package when I sniff out a nice bargain. I turn on phone's wifi/data only once or twice a day and don't have apps like ig or tiktok, yet my favorite game is VR Beat Saber. I've been commented as manly, but I grow a somewhat long hair and like songs performed by girls way more than boy music. I want to live in other places in world, where the scenery is more captivating and the tech more advanced; yet I judge my country's cuisine as the best, and our forefathers' old values to be the standards in choosing partner. I don't really pay attention to others' opinions (about me), but my biggest dream is to do something to carve my name into history. I believe in science, and while I'm not sure I'm a 1st-principle thinker, I'm certainly willing to question any & all things, including social norms. My biggest flaw is probably porn addiction - in fact, I found LS while re-watching Gary Wilson's classic YBOP video. I have a high success rate when I pursue a girl, yet with this peculiar profile you've just read, I feel it hard to find soul mates in this modern society, much less a female partner.
Is that enough? I could go on and share about my values, emotional regulation & communication style, personality, etc. - those dating matters, but it seems I've overdone it quite a bit

Edited Monday at 02:32 AM by longtry

[Els]

11 hours ago, longtry said:

yet I judge my country's cuisine as the best, and our forefathers' old values to be the standards in choosing partner.

Ahh. I wonder what your forefathers with their old values would think about the early retirement and the porn?  

You seem to want a blend of modern and traditional values, which isn't wrong in and of itself. The problem, however, lies with selecting only the "modern" stuff that benefits you, while also selecting the "traditional" stuff that benefits you. 

I don't think a genuinely traditional woman would be into a man who wants to retire early and who watches porn. Traditional cultures, especially in developing countries, tend to associate "masculinity" with being a hard worker, ongoing employment, and providing for the family. From what I observed when I grew up in Asia, even very, very rich men are expected to work all their lives, although the work might be easy (e.g. being the figurehead of the family business). Being unemployed, even by choice, even if you have enough saved up, is often viewed negatively.

So, you're left with the women who aren't traditional but who love cooking. Yeah, they do exist, but as you've noticed it's quite rare (for both men and women). I don't know, are you a good cleaner? I guess modern people who love cooking would be happiest with a partner who's willing to do the cleanup afterwards. Take out the trash, clean the kitchen, keep the pantry stocked with groceries, etc. Experimental dishes, in particular, tend to require quite a lot of cleanup!

"Having someone who appreciates her art" isn't considered bringing something to the table, I'm afraid. You'd be hard pressed to find a person who doesn't enjoy being cooked for.

[longtry]

Both retirement (early or standard 60-65yo) and porn didn't exist at the times of forefathers, so I guess they wouldn't judge harshly. When introduced to something unprecedented, people almost inevitably succumb to it, like the way Chinese to opium, or native Americans to Spanish diseases. I bet our forefathers wouldn't do much better than us.

I'm not proud of my addiction and am working on it. As Wilson argued on YBOP, it's harder than other kinds (food, drugs, alcohol...). Ironically, 1 of the best ways is to find a partner for a healthy rehabilitation, or perhaps a soul mate: whenever an urge comes, I can reliably reach out for a cuddling session or at least a deep intellectual convo.

Regarding FIRE, for me retirement doesn't mean lazing around, but actually working toward that goal of carving my name in history. I have a few ideas for that, and they have the added benefit of potentially bringing mentioned "extremely high income" that enables advertising for tradwives.

Thus, for a woman to accept a man with those 2 traits, I suppose she should have faith in me that I'll overcome porn with her help, and a high OCEAN openness to update her outdated view on employment (but does that make her non-traditional?). In any case, I'm happy to take out the trash and cleanup - probably with a dishwasher. However, keeping the pantry stocked is a cook's responsibility: only she knows what's needed and what not.

It seems the biggest obstacle is how exactly to find these rare unicorn girls with me being not quite active on social media or whatever modern tools they favor nowadays. And if she shares such a preference, chances are she wouldn't be online much, either.

[basil67]

On 12/22/2025 at 1:00 AM, longtry said:

I just can't seem to find decent girls with a passion for cooking. Even in my developing nation, fast food and especially delivery service have deeply penetrated the society, so everywhere around me girls just focus on their looks and vacations, not homemaking.

I think you're hankering for a time which never was.   Where did you get the idea that women used to be passionate cooks?   

I'm Australian (of British heritage) and our food was so incredibly dull.   It improved a bit by the 1990's, but absolutely nothing for my mother and grandmothers generations to find passion for.

 

Edited Tuesday at 04:52 AM by basil67

[Acacia98]

There are women who are passionate about cooking, but I'm guessing they enjoy cooking when they enjoy cooking (at their leisure, on their terms). They might enjoy it less if it becomes something that is expected/demanded of them. When a passion becomes a chore, it becomes harder to derive enjoyment from it, especially if the other person does not reciprocate in some fashion.

I enjoy cooking. But I wouldn't use the word "passion" to describe my enjoyment of it. And I certainly wouldn't want to be the only person within a relationship who cooked. If I'm happy in a relationship and I feel like we have mutual love, respect, and understanding and help/support each other, then the desire to do something nice for my guy becomes stronger, and that something nice might be cooking him a delicious meal when I have the opportunity. And it would be lovely if, on the next day, when I had some work deadline stressing me, he'd take over the kitchen responsibilities and prepare something nice for us both.

That's not quite what you're looking for, is it?

Also, I'm not excited about junk food and don't out often, but I'd really appreciate it if my guy would take me out for dinner or something occasionally. The whole "she cooks delicious food, so we'll just stay at home and watch a movie while she cooks" thing would not work for me. I'm guessing you would want to stay home all nights and eat your girlfriend's masterpieces, but has it occurred to you that spending a whole afternoon/evening slaving over a pot might not be her idea of date night?

Edited Tuesday at 07:19 AM by Acacia98

[Gebidozo]

My partner is a non-traditional woman who has a successful career but also happens to be a fantastic cook.

She cooks for me occasionally, which I regard as a present, equivalent to myself taking her out to a high-quality restaurant.

She does enjoy cooking, but not to the point of actually wanting to do it multiple times per week. The whole idea is that it is a special occasion and not a chore.

I don’t think it is impossible to find a partner who would do this for you, but your expectations must be realistic.

 

 

 

[longtry]

4 hours ago, basil67 said:

I think you're hankering for a time which never was.   Where did you get the idea that women used to be passionate cooks?

I admit that I do have an opinion that more women used to love it than now. However, I don't yearn a return to the past, I'm looking for an effective way to find them.

1 hour ago, Acacia98 said:

If I'm happy in a relationship and I feel like we have mutual love, respect, and understanding and help/support each other, then the desire to do something nice for my guy becomes stronger, and that something nice might be cooking him a delicious meal when I have the opportunity. And it would be lovely if, on the next day, when I had some work deadline stressing me, he'd take over the kitchen responsibilities and prepare something nice for us both.

That's not quite what you're looking for, is it?

This is a scenario that I'm afraid of: during unhappy moments in a relationship, we might quarrel, and in the heat of it she might say "I cook for you but you [insert negative clause]". Once this seed has been planted, it'd grow into irreparable resentment issue some day. That's why, if possible, I prefer girls who love cooking over those who just enjoy it. When you're passionate about something, you do it for its own sake & your own happiness, not for anyone else. She won't cook 'for me' a single time.

On the other hand, your impression of me is misplaced. While I'm indeed lazy, I can take over the responsibility when she's stressed by, say, work (though I blame capitalism for it; see Els' 1st post).

42 minutes ago, Gebidozo said:

She does enjoy cooking, but not to the point of actually wanting to do it multiple times per week. The whole idea is that it is a special occasion and not a chore.

I don’t think it is impossible to find a partner who would do this for you, but your expectations must be realistic.

Actually, I do have a set of probabilities in my mind. If she loves cooking, I'll drop a majority of my other criteria. If she just "likes" to cook, I'll lower some expectations.

[Els]

15 hours ago, longtry said:

I have a few ideas for that, and they have the added benefit of potentially bringing mentioned "extremely high income" that enables advertising for tradwives.

I hope you're aware that I was being facetious when I said that...

15 hours ago, longtry said:

Thus, for a woman to accept a man with those 2 traits, I suppose she should have faith in me that I'll overcome porn with her help, and a high OCEAN openness to update her outdated view on employment (but does that make her non-traditional?).

I also hope you're aware that relying on a hypothetical future partner to "help" you overcome an addiction is an extremely unhealthy choice. You're an adult, your health is your responsibility; it's not your partner's responsibility to be your addiction specialist, therapist, or psychologist. It's your responsibility to seek that help professionally, ideally before getting into a relationship.

It's also a convenient way of pushing it down the line, don't you think? Basically just procrastination...

As for the FIRE thing, of course a woman would need to be non-traditional to accept this, especially if she will be working full-time while YOU are "retired". There's no need to guess what your forefathers would have said about early retirement - just go talk to 70- or 80-yos in your culture and ask them what they'd think about a man who retires 20 years ahead of schedule while his wife of similar age is still working.

9 hours ago, longtry said:

Actually, I do have a set of probabilities in my mind. If she loves cooking, I'll drop a majority of my other criteria. If she just "likes" to cook, I'll lower some expectations.

This is a very concerning way of looking at a relationship. It's like you've got this virtual character in mind where you have a set number of points to assign to various traits, and you think you're just going to create your own custom waifu that way.

Real life and real relationships don't work that way. Real love - a prerequisite of a real relationship, by the way - doesn't work that way.

You say you're in your 30s... have you actually had any real-life relationships that lasted for more than a couple of months? Honestly, if I hadn't read about your age on your post, I would have guessed that you were a 17-yo with no relationship experience writing about his fantasy girl.

 

[Els]

14 hours ago, basil67 said:

I think you're hankering for a time which never was.   Where did you get the idea that women used to be passionate cooks?   

I'm Australian (of British heritage) and our food was so incredibly dull.   It improved a bit by the 1990's, but absolutely nothing for my mother and grandmothers generations to find passion for.

FWIW, not all cultures historically have terrible food.  The cuisines that were brought in to liven up the palates of Australia and the UK generally have long histories in their cultures of origin.

My grandmother seemed to really like cooking (and was an incredible cook), but I could never tell whether she liked it because she liked it, or because there weren't really any other options for her to explore. She couldn't travel until she became a grandmother, she could barely read, she couldn't use technology (because she could barely read), she couldn't do sports, so there just wasn't a ton of things that she could enjoy doing really. Same with my grandfather and the older men in the family who were glad to be the sole breadwinner of their family - was it because they genuinely liked it, or because society didn't give them any other options? 

It's human nature, I think, for people to convince themselves that they are happy with something that they are doing, even if ultimately they didn't have much choice in the matter. Life would be unbearable otherwise.

I think we're seeing a more natural distribution now because people have options.

[longtry]

8 hours ago, Els said:

I hope you're aware that I was being facetious when I said that...

Oops, I wasn't. Nonetheless, I'm serious when I say that there's merit in the idea, because of the next point:

8 hours ago, Els said:

There's no need to guess what your forefathers would have said about early retirement - just go talk to 70- or 80-yos in your culture and ask them what they'd think about a man who retires 20 years ahead of schedule while his wife of similar age is still working.

Mind you, they didn't know what 'retire' is, so this '20y ahead of sked' doesn't make sense. They'd frown at the prospect that she's working while her job should be at home, homemaking. Then they'd reprimand me for letting my wife do that while we already have enough to get food for a few lifetimes.
Both my grandmas bore 10+ children while doing comparable farm work (less, but still) to my grandpas and cooking for the big family. The children helped significantly as they grew up. My grandpa had time to write poets and raise goldfish. What I will ask in my partner is much, much more equalizing and unimaginably liberal in my forefathers' eyes.

8 hours ago, Els said:

It's your responsibility to seek that help professionally, ideally before getting into a relationship.

It's also a convenient way of pushing it down the line, don't you think? Basically just procrastination...

True. But I hope you didn't miss the part when I wrote I'm working on this. It's like a question of egg or chicken 1st. While I don't count on a girl to help, I of course won't shun any assistance coming my way.

8 hours ago, Els said:

Real love - a prerequisite of a real relationship, by the way - doesn't work that way.

Did you know that the notion of love being required for relationship is a rather modern invention? That said, I do want love. Please enlighten me on how love works in your opinion.

8 hours ago, Els said:

have you actually had any real-life relationships that lasted for more than a couple of months?

All my past Rs lasted more than a few months (years), except recently, when I was shocked by this generation's ONS & FWB & whatever-abbreviation-it-is culture. Back then, I didn't know what I want. Now I do, and as I get ready to settle, not being able to cook is a deal-breaker.

[Gebidozo]

6 minutes ago, longtry said:

Did you know that the notion of love being required for relationship is a rather modern invention?

So are abolition of slavery, religious tolerance, universal voting rights, rejection of torture and capital punishment, and a bunch of other good things.

[ExpatInItaly]

1 hour ago, longtry said:

Now I do, and as I get ready to settle, not being able to cook is a deal-breaker.

Understand that a porn addiction is likely to be a dealbreaker for most women, too. 

You would be wise to get your own house in order first, as your issues have a much higher probability of causing serious problems in a relationship than someone who doesn't love cooking. 

 

 

[Els]

5 hours ago, longtry said:

True. But I hope you didn't miss the part when I wrote I'm working on this.

What are you really doing to work on this, though, besides watching YouTube videos? Have you at least talked to a therapist? Who might refer you to a psychologist or an addiction specialist? 

5 hours ago, longtry said:

Did you know that the notion of love being required for relationship is a rather modern invention?  

Of course it is, but you're not exactly looking for a super traditional relationship here, are you? Because if you were completely "traditional", your parents and the woman's parents would decide who marries who, and they might not give a fig about how you feel about it. If you had uncaring parents, you might be married to the worst cook in the world, just because her father is rich.

So you don't want tradition. You don't really want love either, because love involves meeting someone and feeling something for them that grows as you both get to know each other.

You just want a relationship that's 100% on your terms, that ticks the boxes of your list. Let's not mince words and call it what it is. 

Is it your prerogative to want that? I mean, sure. Everyone has the right to want what they want. I just don't know how many takers you're going to have. 

Remember, even if you miraculously find someone who ticks all your boxes, you still need them to be interested in you.

I wish you the best of luck, truly.

 

 

 

 

 

 

[longtry]

11 hours ago, Gebidozo said:

So are abolition of slavery, religious tolerance, universal voting rights, rejection of torture and capital punishment, and a bunch of other good things.

Listing some supposedly good things doesn't make love-required-relationship so. Why do you think divorce rate is up the roof? Why is happiness index going steadily downhill for decades? There must be (strong) correlations. My take on this is, it's partly because people are blinded by love to ignore criteria they should apply. When the lovey-dovey phase fades in 2-3y or so, life is the opposite of rose-tinted.

9 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Understand that a porn addiction is likely to be a dealbreaker for most women, too. 

That's likely a misconception. ~1 in 3 women reported being worried about their partner’s porn use and its impact on intimacy. To make a very liberal guess, maybe up to half of that, or 15%, see it as deal-breaker.
On the other hand, almost 80% men see porn regularly. So perhaps 40% are addicted. Many aren't even aware that they are; another significant portion denies being addicted. Thus, I'm already better than a lot of guys just by identifying my flaw.

9 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

your issues have a much higher probability of causing serious problems

The plural use of "issue" intrigues me. Can you elaborate?

5 hours ago, Els said:

Have you at least talked to a therapist? Who might refer you to a psychologist or an addiction specialist?

There aren't many therapists in my country. But using chatgpt, I made a protocol that involves using a log to track my CBT/ACT practice.

5 hours ago, Els said:

You don't really want love either, because love involves meeting someone and feeling something for them that grows as you both get to know each other.

That's an incorrect image of me. I met people and felt something that grew. It's just that now I want to meet people passionate about cooking and feel something that grows. So what you said of

5 hours ago, Els said:

You just want a relationship that's 100% on your terms, that ticks the boxes of your list. Let's not mince words and call it what it is. 

isn't entirely untrue. The difference is, your method for love is to shoot into the wild by meeting as many people as possible, and build from there. My modus operandi is to narrow down the targets 1st, then meet as many as poss, and grow from there. Slightly better control of one's fate.

 

5 hours ago, Els said:

Remember, even if you miraculously find someone who ticks all your boxes, you still need them to be interested in you.

You forgot what I said, that I have a high success rate when pursuing a girl. I believe I'm not too bad a catch, if you don't keep focusing rather too much on my porn flaw. I opened this thread not to discuss that, but how to find cooking-loving girls. Of course, if they're too rare - say, 1 in 2,000 - then I might be quite doomed if I persist. But if it's 4-5%, well, it's well worth it to look. Honestly, I don't know the ratio.

Edited 20 hours ago by longtry

[Gebidozo]

1 hour ago, longtry said:

Why do you think divorce rate is up the roof?

Mainly because women are no longer forced to tolerate bad partners out of fear of social stigma and insurmountable financial difficulties.

 

 

 

 

[Els]

3 hours ago, longtry said:

There aren't many therapists in my country. But using chatgpt, I made a protocol that involves using a log to track my CBT/ACT practice.

I... really don't know what to say to this. Your idea of working on your addiction is to use ChatGPT to log your incidents? 

I understand that there aren't many therapists in some countries. Surely there are at least a few, though - there aren't many where I grew up either, but they do exist especially in the cities. Otherwise, there are addiction programs that can be done remotely, run by licensed medical practitioners in other countries. 

3 hours ago, longtry said:

On the other hand, almost 80% men see porn regularly. So perhaps 40% are addicted.

Where are you even getting these numbers from?? 80% of men in the US watch porn sometimes, yes. Extrapolating to HALF of those men being addicted (!!) is a pretty massive leap, though. Do you think you might be projecting a bit here?

The figures vary, but actual stats that I've seen for porn addiction in men is from 3% - 11%. The highest estimate I've seen from a reputable source is 11%, in a US study published in PubMed: : https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7044607/

3 hours ago, longtry said:

You forgot what I said, that I have a high success rate when pursuing a girl. I believe I'm not too bad a catch, if you don't keep focusing rather too much on my porn flaw. I opened this thread not to discuss that, but how to find cooking-loving girls. Of course, if they're too rare - say, 1 in 2,000 - then I might be quite doomed if I persist. But if it's 4-5%, well, it's well worth it to look. Honestly, I don't know the ratio.

"Success rate" as in...? They agree to 1 date? They agree to be in a relationship? They agree to marry you?

If you take nothing else from my posts, I hope you at least take this: I'm happily married to my partner of 18 years. Trust me, the "pursuing" part is only a tiny, tiny part of what constitutes a relationship that lasts.

Look, if you want raw odds, even ignoring the whole porn addiction thing, I honestly think your odds are slimmer than the odds of winning the jackpot lottery. The reason is that, IMO, finding a person whom you're compatible with in all the ways that matter, a person who loves you and you them, and a person whom you can live with for decades without getting tired of... that's pretty low for everyone. Those of us who found it are very, very lucky.

Then you add the fact that they have to live near you and you have to meet them. Then you add the odds of them being single and not in a relationship. If they're traditional, you add the odds of their parents liking you and approving of you, not minding the fact that you're a single man in his 30s (traditional people typically marry early), and being open to your unconventional career choice.

Now on top of that... you want to add the requirement that they must LOVE cooking? Not just like it, not just enjoy it, but they must have a passion for it etc etc? Presumably they must also want to do it quite frequently, despite working full-time? And if I'm reading your initial post correctly, they must also not want to go on vacations often?

I dunno, man. I might suggest something like a really traditional church, except their parents aren't gonna approve of you. Then I might suggest a meetup group for people who love cooking, but YOU don't love cooking, so you'd just be going to hit on the women, and that would be painfully obvious to everyone in the group. I guess there aren't really any good answers to your question.

 

Edited 16 hours ago by Els

[Sanch62]

You might have some luck by presenting yourself as seeking someone who can teach you to cook. This sounds more like teamwork in the kitchen to enjoy a mutual interest rather than expecting someone to cater to you.

[ExpatInItaly]

17 hours ago, longtry said:

That's likely a misconception. ~1 in 3 women reported being worried about their partner’s porn use and its impact on intimacy. To make a very liberal guess, maybe up to half of that, or 15%, see it as deal-breaker.

You really don't understand women. 

17 hours ago, longtry said:

On the other hand, almost 80% men see porn regularly. So perhaps 40% are addicted. Many aren't even aware that they are; another significant portion denies being addicted. Thus, I'm already better than a lot of guys just by identifying my flaw.

Inventing statistics doesn't help your case.  The fact that you admit you have a problem doesn't make you a more desirable dating candidate. It's the addicton in and of itself, which I am surprised you don't already understand. 

Finding a woman who loves to cook is the least of the challenges ahead for you.