Anonymous Posted December 16, 2025 Posted December 16, 2025 I have been in a relationship coming up to two years and it feels like it is struggling on an almost consistence basis. At some points it goes really well and at other times it feels like I might as well not exist. Part of me thinks I should step away, that if I am even questioning things it is a massive warning sign but I don't want to. We have spoken on a number of occasions that we do not want to break up and if anything the person has said they are waiting for me to give up. I really don't want to but I do think it is for very selfish reasons and mainly about not wanting to be alone. I am terrified if I say what is on my mind I am going to destroy what I have and that there is no turning back, I want to believe that sooner rather than later things will improve I just need to wait it out and get through the storm, I am just not sure how. Does anyone have any advice?
flitzanu Posted December 17, 2025 Posted December 17, 2025 some great advice i once got, is, if you've ever had real thoughts about breaking up, and you've actually entertained those thoughts and considered what life would be like and how free you'd feel if you broke up....you probably should. even your handful of sentences sound like you know you're not happy.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 17, 2025 Posted December 17, 2025 23 hours ago, Anonymous said: want to believe that sooner rather than later things will improve I just need to wait it out and get through the storm, What problems are you two having?
whathappenstomenow Posted December 21, 2025 Posted December 21, 2025 This is very simple, but not very easy: Read "the thing" as whatever problem you have. They lie, they don't meet a need, they aren't supportive, whatever. You don't end a long term romantic relationship when someone isn't doing "the thing", you don't even end it when they aren't trying to do "the thing" , you end a long term romantic relationship when your partner isn't willing to try to do "the thing" You must at bare minimum have a willingness to try from your partner , or your relationship is functionally over
Cocopopz Posted December 21, 2025 Posted December 21, 2025 Don't Force it. If its not making you happy ...let go. And maybe take a vacation right after to get to yourself.
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