Age gaps and confusion

[saintsinister]

Is 18 and 38 too much of an age gap or a bad thing? 

[ExpatInItaly]

It's legal but unlikely to go well. 

Those are two conpletely different stages in life which usually means a long-term relationship isn't a very realistic prospect. 

[Gebidozo]

2 hours ago, saintsinister said:

Is 18 and 38 too much of an age gap or a bad thing? 

I had one relationship like that. I was 39, she was 19.

It’s actually been my longest relationship so far. We stayed together 7 years.

But I can say with certainty that the age gap wasn’t a positive factor. It’s not so much the gap itself but the fact she was too young.

 

[smackie9]

IMO (if you are the later of age) you will be taking away the best years of her life by chaining her to a mature relationship. Her brain is still developing, so let her explore her independance on her own...dating, partying, growing a career, making friends, building a personality/life. 

[Els]

Are you the 18yo or the 38yo?

It doesn't usually turn out well. These age brackets are in completely different stages of life, so it would be difficult to make a long-term relationship work. If it's just casual sex, then not a big deal, but the 18yo also generally has better options.

[saintsinister]

1 hour ago, smackie9 said:

IMO (if you are the later of age) you will be taking away the best years of her life by chaining her to a mature relationship. Her brain is still developing, so let her explore her independance on her own...dating, partying, growing a career, making friends, building a personality/life. 

i'm the 18 year old. 

[Sony12]

55 minutes ago, saintsinister said:

i'm the 18 year old. 

If you don't want to just be his sex doll you need to be really sure that he is looking for more than just having an 18 year old sex doll.

[smackie9]

3 hours ago, saintsinister said:

i'm the 18 year old. 

you are a she and he is a he? or is it a she and a she? 

[Sony12]

33 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

you are a she and he is a he? or is it a she and a she? 

Could be wrong but my guess is the 38 year old is a he. While women like younger men as well they often don't go for teenagers.  Mid to late twenties is usually the age that men start getting advances from older women. I imagine it would be the same for women looking for other younger women.

Edited 49 minutes ago by Sony12