I told his wife…

[sandylee1]

On 12/7/2025 at 10:08 PM, Anonymous said:

Forgive me, as I am not taking it out on you, I am just working through a ton of emotions and I have sort of isolated myself. I just want to know why he gets to walk away consequence free. Why he just dropped this life and picked up the other. Why I am in pain and heartbreak and yet he is not affected at all. It’s just not fair. I am suffering and he literally moved on like I was nothing. 

She told you she has known for years. Knowledge is power. She had been making decisions in full knowledge of his infidelity. 

That gives her the upper hand and if she's wanted all this time, she could play away too ...knowing that if he caught her, she's knew about your affair.

Take time to heal from the end of the affair and move on with your life. You can enter 2026 without the stress and uncertainty that he has brought to your life.

[Lady Cathryn]

Sometimes the path to freedom is to burn every single bridge. Not leaving a tiny door open. Not believing that things will be different one day. It won’t. Never think that merry Christmas email or text means a damn thing it doesn’t not to them.

I have a lot of guilt about telling his wife via email. I would not have if he had ever taken accountability or responsibility for our fair. It was all on me he couldn’t resist me. My emotions? Oh that was all on me. He couldn’t deal with my emotions. It’s a long story, but it’s a sad story about two people. Don’t make your story sad please don’t make your story learning experience and a very hard one

[stillafool]

On 12/7/2025 at 4:35 PM, Anonymous said:

crazy part is I don’t think his wife cares. I am miserable and they are continuing life as normal.

What were you expecting to happen by telling his wife or should I say what did you want to happen by telling his wife?

[KentuckyEsq]

5 hours ago, stillafool said:

What were you expecting to happen by telling his wife or should I say what did you want to happen by telling his wife?

I can tell you exactly what any of us wants to happen when the A is discovered. . . it is that the spouse kicks him/her to the curb and our AP comes running to us. 

 

[Sanch62]

Just now, KentuckyEsq said:

I can tell you exactly what any of us wants to happen when the A is discovered. . . it is that the spouse kicks him/her to the curb and our AP comes running to us. 

Which is kind of delusional, even if AP trusts that you weren't the cause of the discovery. Now the AP can't have it both ways. The spouse cut them off. I can't think of a bigger aphrodisiac to prompt desire for a reconciliation with that spouse.

Messing with someone else's marriage doesn't offer great odds of a desired outcome.

[KentuckyEsq]

1 minute ago, Sanch62 said:

Which is kind of delusional, even if AP trusts that you weren't the cause of the discovery. Now the AP can't have it both ways. The spouse cut them off. I can't think of a bigger aphrodisiac to prompt desire for a reconciliation with that spouse.

Messing with someone else's marriage doesn't offer great odds of a desired outcome.

I'm just telling you what we APs hope happens upon discovery. Yeah it is delusional and not at all a likely outcome.