In a talking stage, help me get out of it?

[Anon1212]

So this guy requested to follow me on Instagram and I did originally delete it cause I didn’t know him and I generally don’t let people I don’t know follow me, but then he did it again so I just decided to accept it. He then proceeded to dm me and we got to talking, but pretty early on in the conversation he started calling me pet names. It was cute the first couple times but now it’s not. 

We made plans for dinner this upcoming Monday but he is constantly calling me pet names, also he asked if he could call me last night (i said no). I also checked who he’s following and there’s so many girls. 

I saw a couple TikTok’s explaining that if a guy uses pet names very early on in the talking stages then he’s probably also talking to other girls. I don’t know i’m just not feeling it anymore and I wanna stop talking to him without being a jerk. 

The pet names he called me are mainly sweetheart but he throws in gorgeous and beautiful sometimes too. 

[Lotsgoingon]

I don't know why you rewarded this guy by agreeing to allow him to follow you--just because he asked a second time.

You can still cut him off and block him. Yes, pet names are a red flag, and great opportunity for you to speak up. "Hi, you don't know me well. I'm uncomfortable with you calling me pet names."

This guy sounds like he just wants to get into your pants. Oddly enough, he also sounds like someone who is just a prankster. 

[MsJayne]

Any person, male or female, who starts with the pet names when they don't even know you is someone to be wary of. It's over-familiar behaviour and is an early warning that the person doesn't respect boundaries and presents a fake persona, in a used-car-salesman kinda way. It's also very common for scammers to use pet names with potential victims because that way they don't have to keep remembering the names of all the women they have online contact with at the same time. Allowing a stranger access to your social media isn't a very smart thing to do, please think about this and the possible consequences, there's a lot of psychos out there. 

5 hours ago, Anon1212 said:

I wanna stop talking to him without being a jerk. 

Just delete and block him, there's nothing jerky about doing that. However, if you were actually willing to have dinner with some random guy who hits up every girl on Instagram, that would be jerk behaviour. Don't entertain men who disrespect women, they don't deserve the company of females. 

[ShyViolet]

If your instincts are telling you that something is off about this guy, and you just don't like the vibe you're getting, then don't go on a date with him.  Cancel it.  And stop worrying about "not being a jerk."  This guy is a complete stranger to you and you don't owe him anything.  Just cancel the date, plain and simple, don't come up with some elaborate story, just keep it short and to the point.

[basil67]

His actions are that of a guy who doesn't have great social skills.  I'd give it a miss