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I have this friend “Kelly” (name changed). We get along pretty well but I wouldn’t say she’s a super close friend. We used to work together several years ago, but then she moved to another school. About a year later, I coincidentally saw her on Bumble BFF and decided to meet for coffee. About once every few months we would do something like see a movie or get lunch. 

I started texted her again in October and she suggested that maybe I should come to her place and do a craft day. I said I thought that would be fun and we should plan for that. A few days after we were texting I became sick and was coughing for nearly a month. Because of this, I didn’t reach out to her (but I totally would have responded if she were to message me).

In the meantime I was thinking that maybe I should try to make a stronger friendship with her. Like I said we get along great but it’s not like we hang out a ton. I figured she she was a single woman without kids, just like me, I was hoping I could get a friendship that feels like a life companion (I’m not saying that we will be dating). 
 

Before Thanksgiving, I ended up working as a sub teacher at Kelly’s school. I ran into her and she announced that she learned that she is pregnant and that’s why there was no fallow up after proposing a craft day. I congratulated her and said I had been sick so that’s why 
 

Anyways, I don’t know if I should reach out to Kelly asking her if she wants to do a craft day (or see a movie, etc). Im still going to see Kelly as a friend but it’s obviously not going to be the kind of friendship I was hoping for. I told the story to another friend of mine (who doesn’t know Kelly) and she said I should just wait for Kelly to reach out to me because Kelly has different priorities now. 

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I honestly don't understand why both you and Kelly are making such a big deal about reaching out to each other. What's the worst that could happen? You reach out and she's unable to meet? Isn't that something you can live with?

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I think you're really overthinking this.  If you want to try to form a closer friendship with her then go ahead and reach out.  There's nothing in your post that gives a reason not to.

And if she doesn't reciprocate or doesn't seem interested, then oh well.  Let it go but at least you tried.

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