How to initiate conversation with this girl at the gym?

[Musicisbest93]

16 minutes ago, FredEire said:

In answer the OP, the way to initiate small talk is to initiate small talk. Just do it.

I think what you said to her is fine, but its going to be a bit off-putting if you then just walk away and go striaght back to your workout. You could ask a few followup questions like how long shes been coming, where shes from etc. Or you can may a joke like "Damn your biceps are better than mine! How'd you manage that?"

Making people laugh is the best way to win them over, I find. If youre a little bit socially awkward as you mentioned, it can take away the edge and can come off as cute if you're relaxed about it.

Maybe ill try that next time I see her. I did say "enjoy your workout" before I walked away 

[FredEire]

10 minutes ago, Musicisbest93 said:

Maybe ill try that next time I see her. I did say "enjoy your workout" before I walked away 

I would say in general just try and be friendly and chat for a while.

Also you mentioned you're on the spectrum. I would say just lean into the awkwardness and embrace being a little bit quirky. I've met guys on the spectrum who everyone liked because they were just having fun and being themselves and not forcing being "normal".

It's fine if one or two interactions are a little bit awkward. You're learning, that's part of the process.

[Musicisbest93]

38 minutes ago, FredEire said:

I would say in general just try and be friendly and chat for a while.

Also you mentioned you're on the spectrum. I would say just lean into the awkwardness and embrace being a little bit quirky. I've met guys on the spectrum who everyone liked because they were just having fun and being themselves and not forcing being "normal".

It's fine if one or two interactions are a little bit awkward. You're learning, that's part of the process.

Id rather say whatever comes to mind. In fact if she was in a certain corner of the gym id probably say "im usually there but you beat me to it" lol

[FredEire]

12 minutes ago, Musicisbest93 said:

Id rather say whatever comes to mind. In fact if she was in a certain corner of the gym id probably say "im usually there but you beat me to it" lol

Right. The main thing is just to try and increase your social circle (not just talking to women). Don't worry so much about the outcome. It's no use keeping to yourself all the time wondering about what ifs.

[Musicisbest93]

24 minutes ago, FredEire said:

Right. The main thing is just to try and increase your social circle (not just talking to women). Don't worry so much about the outcome. It's no use keeping to yourself all the time wondering about what ifs.

Are you an extrovert or introvert? I should talk to guys too i keep forgetting 

[FredEire]

4 minutes ago, Musicisbest93 said:

Are you an extrovert or introvert? I should talk to guys too i keep forgetting 

Haha I would say I'm more of an extrovert with introvert tendencies.

I wouldn't worry so much about categorising everything by personality types though, we are all just people complex in our own ways. "Introvert/Extrovert" or "INTJ" or whatever labels you want to use doesn't give you much insight in reality.

[Musicisbest93]

1 hour ago, FredEire said:

I would say in general just try and be friendly and chat for a while.

Also you mentioned you're on the spectrum. I would say just lean into the awkwardness and embrace being a little bit quirky. I've met guys on the spectrum who everyone liked because they were just having fun and being themselves and not forcing being "normal".

It's fine if one or two interactions are a little bit awkward. You're learning, that's part of the process.

How can one just lean into the awkwardness and "be themselves"? (which sounds easier said than done) 

[FredEire]

1 hour ago, Musicisbest93 said:

How can one just lean into the awkwardness and "be themselves"? (which sounds easier said than done) 

To just be your quirky self and dont try to follow some script that you think people want. The right people will understand if you are oversharing etc sometimes, and even find it interesting.

Just keep in mind stuff like being respectful etc, but apart from that just be authentic and to hell what anyone thinks!