A family we wish we had

[marcusantonio]

 

 

Who wouldn’t want to grow up in a healthy, supportive family? Unfortunately, not all of us are given that privilege. When you study relationships and start to understand how they should work, you suddenly feel the emptiness of what you never had. You notice other families who communicate openly, support each other, and grow together, and you realize how different things are at home. (your home).

Part of you wants to create the same dynamic with your own family, because you want to feel in a safe place, but you know it wouldn’t work, and that makes you feel broken. That sense of warmth and safety that real families share is priceless, and many of us have never experienced it. You may wonder who am I to talk like this. I'd love to say I'm not an antropologyst, but I'm someone who experienced this on his own skin. 

To share a real life things, a friend of mine found that kind of love in his partner’s family, and it completely changed him. Hearing his story made me reflect on my own background, where love exists only on a biological level, without true unity or emotional growth. I can cleary see his transition from a guy to a man, just because of the influence of that family. He also told me now He feel in a safe place. Like something like a "positive feedback loop" or something like "honeymoon phase" but perpetual. 

I look around and see families who grow together, while I feel the sadness of not having one. Even the people I hoped I could rely on behave in ways that remind me of the environment I grew up in, shouting, disrespect, and a lack of care. Instead of having a solid family or social circle to lean on, I feel alone among people who often show only their worst traits. Whenever you try to open up, you end up getting hurt.
Sometimes it feels like I’ll never find a group I can truly call family, a team that moves forward together. And I keep wondering where I might find people who can finally make the world feel safe.Sure, I can still see families united, but I can sense that something's not right. Even though I see them united, I see them partying, always being present, etc., there's something about their level of rudeness or how they relate to each other that makes you say they're all together for reasons of blood alone, and not to help each other.

 

I always wonder, in these cases, where we should start to create points, pillars, people in our lives who we can truly trust?