The Other Woman

[Anonymous]

I have been in a FWB with an ex from April to August of this year on a regular basis.   I guess ex is the key word, I should never have been involved with him a 2nd time.  He assured me he was not dating anyone.  He always said he didn’t want to get remarried and I’m on the same page.  We are both 58.  Sex was incredible.  

I drove by his house after a couple weeks of him making excuses that he was busy.  I saw he had sold his house and did not even have the decency to tell me.  I texted him and asked if he had moved.  He responded that he quit his job, sold his house and moved to FL to help his son who lost his job.  I thought that was odd.  I knew he had previously been seeing a woman in Ga so I sent her a message on FB.  I then got a text from him (I know she wrote it) saying he wanted to tell me the truth that they had been on and off and he realized he wanted to marry her.  They are now married according to the pic on FB.  I feel so betrayed and lied to.  All he had to do was tell me the truth. I was upfront about not sleeping around as we did not use protection and he assured me he wasn’t sleeping around. I told him if he started seeing someone to let me know and we could end out booking up.   Why tell me, he was getting it from 2 women apparently.  I have caught him in numerous lies so I guess I shouldn’t be surprised.  His is a POS and dishonest.  Wish I had not even wasted my time on this man.  

[MsJayne]

Ah the old , "I don't ever want to get married again", and then they get married to someone else. I have no words of wisdom for you, it's a hurtful experience to be used and you have my sympathy, but maybe this little tale of woe will give you a lift. When I was young and naive, (40 years ago), I lived with an older guy who was a bitter divorcee. I was regularly told how he would never get married again, and obviously for a naive young woman in her first serious relationship this was a negative and damaging experience, and eventually I realised I was just a void filler with the added benefit that I paid half the rent. It took me a few years of growing before I saw him for the whining, middle-aged non-achiever that he actually was. Twenty-five years later, (at the age of 60), he married a Filipino woman, (she was 40), I think mainly because he wanted someone to look after him in his old age. She had a son, gained residency in Australia, and then left Old Fart in her dust, and continues to use their son to make his life an absolute misery. He's now 73 and the son, who is now 13, is running off the rails. Sometimes when things hurt us badly we just have to sit and wait for the Karma Train to pull into someone's station. Your guy's relationship can't have been going for too long and they've rushed into marriage. Trust me, this will be a disaster. Don't be surprised if he's on the other end of your 'phone at some stage in the future bleating about how he's now divorced again.  

[Katt]

1 hour ago, Anonymous said:

 

 

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[ExpatInItaly]

5 hours ago, Anonymous said:

I have caught him in numerous lies so I guess I shouldn’t be surprised.

Yes, it sounds like there were red flags. 

Did you ever suspect he actually already had a partner?