she lied about her age by 10 years!

[Sony12]

Yes usually anytime someone puts an age range down that is tailored either younger or older than them it is usually viewed as a red flag to people who aren't interested in the same thing you are because age ranges are more about sexual interests than relationship interests. 

If you are really interested in finding a relationship on apps it is probably better to not put down an age range at all. Or if you do put it down it's best to put your own age right smack in the middle.

Edited 5 hours ago by Sony12

[FredEire]

1 hour ago, Sony12 said:

Yes usually anytime someone puts an age range down that is tailored either younger or older than them it is usually viewed as a red flag to people who aren't interested in the same thing you are because age ranges are more about sexual interests than relationship interests. 

If you are really interested in finding a relationship on apps it is probably better to not put down an age range at all. Or if you do put it down it's best to put your own age right smack in the middle.

Why can't it be both?

Every decade puts you at a pretty different stage in your life. Apart from kids or sexual attraction there are a lot of reasons to want to date people who are your own age or younger.

Ok, if a 25 year old doesn't want to date a 35 year old it is probably one or both of the above. But if I'm say 40 and in the midst of my life and career it's reasonable not to want to date someone who's in their 60s, staring at retirement and to be blunt I know they've only got a certain amount of years left and I will have to deal with that loss while I am still relatively young.

It seems like because you're not into relationships yourself you view kids and sex appeal as the only things people consider.

And yes fwiw I know OP said he prefers slightly younger women because he finds them more attractive and I can see why people take issue with that. I still dont think you can equate it to something like 50 year old Dicaprio exclusively dating 19 year olds, or that it invalidates the issue in the lie that this woman he was dating told.