I want my wife to dress more sexy

[Mrunsure01]

My wife and I have been married for 16 years and have 4 kids together. We are, I would say, pretty happy in our marriage. We’ve always been pretty adventurous in our intimate life. But lately (or for the past year and a half) she’s been opting to dress more modestly. She’s always known that I enjoy her dressing more on the sexy end of the spectrum. Nothing too crazy. But like, not wearing a bra, and lower cut tops than most women typically wear on a normal day out grocery shopping etc. Like date nights always consist of her finding something as revealing as possible without looking trashy. And she knows I also love when she dresses like that when she’s just going to the store or a doctors by herself. She knows I enjoy other guys checking her out, so she’s gotten to enjoy it too. It even got so far as for her to wear things that would allow for glimpses down her top to see that she’s braless when she’d bend over. She’d do that with me, or even out shopping by herself. I know, it’s not typically for a husband to like other guys checking out their wife. But it’s always been a thing I enjoyed. I don’t know why. And she entertained it for years.
 

Anyways, shes gradually been dressing less revealing. She’s been wearing a bra more. And when asked she says she doesn’t want her nipples being visible all the time. She’d recently been in a car accident and has been going to chiropractor three times per week (this has been going on for about 8 months). The first office she went to, she was still on and off dressing sexy. It was kinda a thing we’d do. I would ask if she had and appointment today, if she said yes, I would say, you should wear something fun. She’d put on something fun and revealing and go to her appointment. Her chiropractor was a guy about her age, just for reference. Anyways, she was on and off in whether she would dress more modest or sexy. But for her appointments, she always dressed sexy. Never a bra, and always something that most guys would enjoy seeing. Again, not trashy, but clearly a woman looking to be seen as sexy. Like she had an appointment on my birthday, and I driver her to it and waited in the car. She wore black leggings and a thin low cut too that you could see the color of her nipples through quite easily. I loved it and she knew exactly what she was doing. So she went to this guy for months, then had to change chiropractors. Since changing, she’s wearing bras everyday now, and nothing low cut. She’s said she’s just wanting to dress more modest. It seems out of nowhere. Like, this has been our normal for years. She’s always known I like her dressing sexy and getting attention from other guys. She even posted nude photos of herself for several years on Flickr just for fun and because she knew I loved it. She’d chat with guys on there and get tons of comments in her pics. She doesn’t do that anymore. But just to say it’s been quite a prominent feature in our relationship. So for her to randomly decide she’s going to dress more modestly, it sounds weird, but it feels like I’m missing some fire that we used to have. I try to get her to do it, and she’ll do little things, but nothing that would be above a normal, attractive outfit. It’s to the point that she got new black leggings that are completely see through when she bends over even a little (she doesn’t wear underwear under them). I haven’t told her because it’s the only sort of exciting thing she wears, but only because she doesn’t know. But it’s fun knowing when she’s laying in the chiropractor table with the bright lights, he can totally see her bum.

 

i don’t know what im asking here. I know this is kinda weird. And the answer is probably that it’s perfectly normal for a woman to decide to dress more modestly. But is it reasonable to be disappointed when literally our whole marriage has played with this preference of mine for her to dress in revealing ways further guys? Any ideas of how I could encourage her to get back to doing that? Or should I just try to let it go? I’m not sure I can though. It’s like a huge source of sexual excitement for me, that’s been there since we started dating at 18, is just gone all of a sudden. It’s hard to just let it go like it wasn’t a major part of our sexual fun for over a decade.

[Sanch62]

Have you considered that she may want to adopt more respectful choices of clothing and exposure for 4 children?

Kids don't want to see their mother's boobs flashing around as they are growing into learning about their own sexuality.

I can understand shooting for sexy on private dates, getaway weekends and vacations while the kids stay with family, but as part of everyday life, maybe wife's definition of parenthood is not focused on your penis?

[MsJayne]

Young women can get away with being a bit risque in their style of dress, on a middle-aged woman being bra-less just makes her look like a thirsty old boiler. Sounds like your wife has found some self-respect and is no longer interested in making a fool of herself in order to satisfy your fantasies. Maybe the chiropractor told her to grow up and stop flashing her chest at him. Not all men are sleazy.