Can this man ever become more in my life?

[flitzanu]

no one is saying he doesn't "care" about you or is your friend, we are just saying that you're not going to get a relationship with an honest person that is actually choosing a committed relationship with you.  

you're getting scraps.

[Cantholdm3e]

You all gave good advice. Maybe what I should be focusing on instead is why I’m only worthy of being the side piece girl. He has a wife he isn’t leaving, and simultaneously had a girlfriend in his new city he was living with until I guess she got sick of his cheating and him not actually leaving his wife. He’ll tell me he loves both of them, and loved his other affair partner, but not me? Why might it be that I’m unlovable and not worthy? He’s said our sex is the best and I’ve always been so enthusiastic about spending time with him for 7 years and will get jealous over him and tell him I love him 

[Gebidozo]

2 hours ago, Cantholdm3e said:

Maybe what I should be focusing on instead is why I’m only worthy of being the side piece girl.

Because you’re letting yourself be the side piece girl.

Your worth greatly depends on your self-worth.

[Cantholdm3e]

I tried not to be… for a while told him I would not be alone w him until he was formerly (on paper) separated… assumed he wouldn’t want to start dating me anyhow at time bc I was pregnant and separating myself, but he did. It seemed nothing could stop us getting together. His other GF was also married when they met, also wanted him to get divorced but kept going along w him (even moving in w him) for quite a while… and he tells me he loved her, but me he never lived with and says we’ll never be in a relationship?!

[ExpatInItaly]

8 hours ago, Cantholdm3e said:

Why might it be that I’m unlovable and not worthy?

You have very little self-rrespect, which is not attractive to men. 

He sees that he can treat you like an option and you'll not only serve that up to him, but also go chasing right after it. Notice that the woman he wants more doesn't take his crap the way you do?