elisabeth160 Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Hi I'm elisabeth and I'm 22 years old... Long story short... I've been friends with this guy for over 6 months. And started having feelings for him. He was broken up with his ex but still friends at the time. So I thought I'd have a chance, and he told a friend of mine he had feelings for me but didn't know if itd go any further. But end of dec he started seeing his ex again. I was hurt and told him I had feelings for him. His reaction was of suprise and asked y I didn't say anything sooner. I thought I'd missed my chance. And was disapointed but ok with being just friends. But recently we've started hooking up. And just the other night we slept together for the first time. We agreed its suppose 2 be a secret because we work at the same place and people talk... a lot. I'm ok with it, and I know its wrong on my part because he has a gf. But I really like this guy. I'm not sure his side, he treats me good and doesn't act weird with me. But hasn't broken up with her. And she treats him badly. Should I just take what I can get and be happy? For guys, what is this 2 him? Just sex? More than that? And why won't he break up with her? I know he's very close 2 her family, but hes constantly fighting with her. Your thoughts and advice please.. And thankyou in advance =)
whichwayisup Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 I think you need a guy who isn't with another woman. He has a girlfriend and hasn't broken up with her, or if he has, he keeps going back to her - Which means even though she treats him like crap, he's staying with her. And keeping you on the side, a "secret." Staying with him will only hurt you. He isn't ready to end it with her, and he's close to her family, which I'm sure is another reason why it's not over either. I also have to add, he is telling you that she treats him like crap, that may not be true. I mean, why wouldn't he break up with her? Think about it.
Sami_D Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Hello elisabeth. Well I'm guessing he won't break up with her because he wants to be with her. He is telling you about how much they fight and so on, but he's making a choice to be there so let's face it... it's not that bad. It's just something to get you hooked. You're wasting your time with him. He just wants you for his 'little secret' at work so he can be sure of something on the side when the arguments with his girlfriend get too much. Oh, and when they don't. Also, read BUTAFLY and DepressedWaiting's threads, and read what their MM said about how it was THEIR fault things went wrong... your MM is blaming you already for it not being ok between you: YOU didn't tell HIM how you felt, therefore you're not together. Right. Men like that make me sick. Don't put yourself on a plate for him. He's not worth it.
bluechocolate Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t79663/
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