fliritng or friendly?

[ikonik]

I work at a gym and I've become friendly with customers, one who, the other day was walking toward the front desk where I was, the whole time she was walking back, she was smiling at me. I looked at her because I noticed her from my side view but I looked back trying to play it cool. She was ultimately just asking for equipment but normally people don't smile that long it's just like a quick one and that's it. AM I reading too much into it or what? Another time she was walking with her friend pass my desk and turned backt to me and smiled, it wasn't like a flirty smile but still more than other customers would do I assume. For context, my first interaaction was when I helped her with an issue I made small talk with her helping her, but not anything too crazy, jsut asked how she liked the gym.

[basil67]

Is this the same girl you previously wrote about?   

It's been six months and neither of you has made a move.  Nothing can possibly come of this unless one of you takes action!   And "playing it cool" is probably the worst thing you can do if you're actually interested.  All it's doing is showing her that you don't care enough to engage

 

 

 

[ikonik]

1 minute ago, basil67 said:

Is this the same girl you previously wrote about?   

It's been six months and neither of you has made a move.  Nothing can possibly come of this unless one of you takes action!   And "playing it cool" is probably the worst thing you can do if you're actually interested.  All it's doing is showing her that you don't care enough to engage

 

 

 

no it's a new girl, new gym

Edited Wednesday at 11:03 PM by ikonik

[basil67]

OK.  So what's with feigning disinterest?  

[ikonik]

5 minutes ago, basil67 said:

OK.  So what's with feigning disinterest?  

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[basil67]

7 minutes ago, ikonik said:

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Playing it cool means that you are trying to show that you don’t care about an outcome.  It’s a giant “whatever”

[Gebidozo]

1 hour ago, ikonik said:

I looked back trying to play it cool.

Well, if you keep doing that, nothing will ever come out of it.

No normal woman will be interested in a guy who “plays it cool”.

Just approach her and ask her out for a coffee or something.

[ikonik]

1 minute ago, Gebidozo said:

Well, if you keep doing that, nothing will ever come out of it.

No normal woman will be interested in a guy who “plays it cool”.

Just approach her and ask her out for a coffee or something.

true. do you think she's interested? i looked back because I thought'd be weird if i locked eyes with her for that long.

[Gebidozo]

1 hour ago, ikonik said:

do you think she's interested?

Impossible to tell until you ask her out on a date.

The level of interest is always directly deduced from the corresponding acts, never before them.

For example, if a girl says “yes” when you ask her out on a date, then she is interested enough to go out on one date with you. Possibly more, but there is no way to know for sure until more actually happens.

 

[basil67]

2 hours ago, ikonik said:

true. do you think she's interested? i looked back because I thought'd be weird if i locked eyes with her for that long.

Yes, it's weird if you just both stand there staring at each other.  So to make it more comfortable, one of you needs to speak.   Simply smiling and saying good morning/afternoon and asking how their day has been is enough to get a conversation going. 

Remember that a woman who is confident enough to initiate a smile with a stranger is going to want a guy with the confidence to pick up and run with the interaction. 

Of course, I can't tell you if she was flirting or friendly, but the only way to find out is to start a conversation.  

[ExpatInItaly]

5 hours ago, ikonik said:

true. do you think she's interested? 

There is not enough interactinon between you to determine that. 

The only way you will be able to tell is if you actually talk to her and feel things out. 

[flitzanu]

also be careful about being the creepy guy that works at the gym that hits on customers and makes them uneasy.