A Lie or Mistaken?

[Cat70]

We have been talking for 2 months and he at one point about 3 weeks ago ,told me about his previous Op and that she passed away, I asked how did he find out ( she was from Ireland,he the USA) he said her mother called him. Our conversation went elsewhere that evening. I remember bits of it and especially that because I felt sad for him for loosing someone he was involved with for 7 years and had taken many flights to Ireland.  

We were discussing something this evening that lead to me asking him a question about Ireland and was he moving there.  He did say plans were in action.  To make this short.  He said she was seeing someone else. I immediately asked a few more questions and then I said. You told me she passed away. He denied saying that. I only have my side of the chats ,his are no longer available ( reddit) . I can't shake this feeling that I'm questioning my memory,I'm certain he said she passed away.  What the hell do I do? 

[ExpatInItaly]

2 hours ago, Cat70 said:

We have been talking for 2 months and he at one point about 3 weeks ago ,told me about his previous Op

What do you mean by "op" in this context? 

And who is he to you, exactly? You say you've been talking,  but it's not clear if you two are dating. A little more context on the situation between you and him would be helpful. 

 

[Cat70]

Op=other partner

We met on Ashley madison. We shared our pictures and have been chatting for 2 months now. We had tried to meet but our schedules are difficult to make that happen. 

[ExpatInItaly]

Given that this is an Ashley Madison situation, I woudln't really concern myself with who else is in his life. The playing field is very different when it's a site based on hook-ups outside the primary relationship. It would be nice if everyone were honest, but it's Ashley Madison. It's best to keep your expectations of honesty and transparency very low. 

It sounds like he's lied, yes, and probably forgot which lies he's told told which women. 

This is not someone I would be interested in meeting for any reason, personally.