I can't find anyone, I feel lonely, do you think talking to AI it could be useful?

[PensadorDeMedianoche]

I've always had quite a few problems when it comes to relating to other people. But right now I find myself in a situation where I have no one. I've seen several adverts for websites with AI characters you can interact with. Maybe that could be useful, if only to make me feel a little more confident, right? Like training.

[FredEire]

No, I think signing up to AI chat bots that are meant to substitute friends/partners is a dangerous rabbit hole.

Tools like ChatGPT can give you some useful tips on how to improve your social/dating life in the real world. I wouldn't use it for anything further than that.

[Sanch62]

15 minutes ago, FredEire said:

No, I think signing up to AI chat bots that are meant to substitute friends/partners is a dangerous rabbit hole.

Tools like ChatGPT can give you some useful tips on how to improve your social/dating life in the real world. I wouldn't use it for anything further than that.

I agree. It makes no sense to pay money for something that artificially pretends to care about you, when you already know that's not true, and while plenty of Ai bots are free.

Keep the same chat going as you ask more questions so the bot can build on what you've told it before. But there's no getting around doing the work to get out in the world to explore potential interests in causes or activities that will bond you over time with others through a common goal or focus.

There is nobody who is perfect--we all learn by trial and error. While learning social skills we don't see most people's mistakes, but you can trust that everybody makes them, and we learn to bounce back from them. That's why most people are forgiving of mistakes and find them simple to overlook. You simply need to extend yourself enough to be WITH others and form acquaintances. Some of those develop into friendships. Those build confidence and expose you to more people, any of whom might strike simpatico with you as a romance.

Consider using meetup.com to explore groups in your area. The hosts of each group are welcoming and will introduce you to others, who will also be welcoming.

Edited November 11, 2025 by Sanch62

[FredEire]

16 minutes ago, Sanch62 said:

I agree. It makes no sense to pay money for something that artificially pretends to care about you, when you already know that's not true, and while plenty of Ai bots are free.

Keep the same chat going as you ask more questions so the bot can build on what you've told it before. But there's no getting around doing the work to get out in the world to explore potential interests in causes or activities that will bond you over time with others through a common goal or focus.

There is nobody who is perfect--we all learn by trial and error. While learning social skills we don't see most people's mistakes, but you can trust that everybody makes them, and we learn to bounce back from them. That's why most people are forgiving of mistakes and find them simple to overlook. You simply need to extend yourself enough to be WITH others and form acquaintances. Some of those develop into friendships. Those build confidence and expose you to more people, any of whom might strike simpatico with you as a romance.

Consider using meetup.com to explore groups in your area. The hosts of each group are welcoming and will introduce you to others, who will also be welcoming.

If you struggle with social skills and connecting that sucks, theres no way around it. But nothing good ever came easy, the way through it is to try and try and try again and pick yourself up a little wiser each time even when it doesnt work out.

Subscribing to an AI girlfriend service is going to leave you feeling more hollow and lonely than ever.

[FredEire]

I would add that some of the people with the best social skills I know really really struggle with connection. They put everything into surface level thrill.

Even if you are not the world's greatest charmer if you make just a couple of really meaningful connections you are ahead of a lot of people in life, even the ones you might think have it easy.

Edited November 11, 2025 by FredEire

[Shehaari]

I agree with the posters above OP, and would steer away from making AI your new friend.. It might sound emotionally safe, but not worth it in the long run.

56 minutes ago, FredEire said:

Subscribing to an AI girlfriend service is going to leave you feeling more hollow and lonely than ever.

1 hour ago, Sanch62 said:

Consider using meetup.com to explore groups in your area. The hosts of each group are welcoming and will introduce you to others, who will also be welcoming.

This is absolutely food for thought and really good advice. 

Going out of once comfort zone can be scary, but culticating  real-life relationships can be more rewarding for you long term.

Perhaps  using a free version of ChatGPT to gain knowledge on becoming more comfortable in social settings can help instead. 
Rather than using AI as a conversation partner, use it to gain knowlage and the neccessary tools to grow your social skills and slowly put yourself out there - perhaps a place where you can meet people that share the same passions/hobbies as you do. 

It's easier said than done, but give it a try and see how it goes

[ShyViolet]

5 hours ago, PensadorDeMedianoche said:

Maybe that could be useful, if only to make me feel a little more confident, right? Like training.

No.  Going down the rabbit hole of talking to fake AI "friends" is dangerous and creepy, and a great way to distance yourself even further from real-life social skills.  People hide behind screens, video games, long distance virtual relationships where they never meet in person, and now AI chatbots, as a way to avoid having to use real life social skills because it can be scary and difficult.  But the only way to be a mentally healthy, well adjusted person is to push yourself out of your comfort zone and force yourself to learn to interact in the real world.

[smackie9]

AI will only restrain you from living real life. 

[PensadorDeMedianoche]

On 11/11/2025 at 18:01, FredEire said:

No, creo que registrarse en chatbots de IA que pretenden sustituir a amigos/parejas es un peligroso laberinto.

Herramientas como ChatGPT pueden darte algunos consejos útiles para mejorar tu vida social y amorosa en el mundo real. No la usaría para nada más.

Claro, pero realmente es lo mismo hablar con chatgpt que con eso no? Al final es simplemente hablar con un chatgpt pero personalizado, "disfrazado" por decirlo de una manera, simplemente para familiarizarse un poco con el ambito, no digo que vaya a basar mi vida social en ello sabes.

[FredEire]

11 minutes ago, PensadorDeMedianoche said:

Claro, pero realmente es lo mismo hablar con chatgpt que con eso no? Al final es simplemente hablar con un chatgpt pero personalizado, "disfrazado" por decirlo de una manera, simplemente para familiarizarse un poco con el ambito, no digo que vaya a basar mi vida social en ello sabes.

No sé por qué me respondes en español porque creo que la mayoría de la gente acá no hablan, pero por suerte yo sí

Bueno sí, puede ser, pero es como fumar "a veces para relajarse", no tiene sentido hacer algo adictivo y peligroso solo para "acostumbrarse".

No se puede substituir comunicación humano de verdad. Para familiarizarse con el ambito tiene mucho más sentido ir a eventos sociales, probar nuevos pasatiempos etc, aún ir a tomar un café y hablar con la gente por la calle.

[Els]

Do you know how LLMs (which are what these AI characters are) work? Broadly speaking, they sift through large quantities of data, find the words that correspond to what you ask of them, and regurgitate them. This makes them useful for reducing the amount of work needed to, say, search the internet for the answer to a technical question. 

But how on earth do you think that would help you with real-life social interaction or make you feel more confident? They aren't actually human. They can't teach you how to interact with humans. 

In order to "train" yourself to do something, you need to actually do the thing. 

[mario_C]

You know AI chatbots have led to at least one suicide, right? They absolutely must not be trusted with your mental health.

As for the AI virtual friend/lover thing....I'm familiar with them, and they're entertainment, nothing more. It's a kind of sex work, like online pornography, and that has it's place, but it does hinder your ability to make friends and improve your social skills. They just tell you what you want to hear: you're hot, you're so fun and interesting, boy is your schwanz huge, all that BS.

Are there any resources around you to go out and meet people in a friendly, welcoming environment? Meetup, Facebook or reddit groups...are their things like Unitarian meetinghouses or a gym near where you live? You have to go do that stuff. Finding people who share your interests and working on those interests together is important.