I can't find anyone, I feel lonely, do you think talking to AI it could be useful?

[PensadorDeMedianoche]

I've always had quite a few problems when it comes to relating to other people. But right now I find myself in a situation where I have no one. I've seen several adverts for websites with AI characters you can interact with. Maybe that could be useful, if only to make me feel a little more confident, right? Like training.

[FredEire]

No, I think signing up to AI chat bots that are meant to substitute friends/partners is a dangerous rabbit hole.

Tools like ChatGPT can give you some useful tips on how to improve your social/dating life in the real world. I wouldn't use it for anything further than that.

[Sanch62]

15 minutes ago, FredEire said:

No, I think signing up to AI chat bots that are meant to substitute friends/partners is a dangerous rabbit hole.

Tools like ChatGPT can give you some useful tips on how to improve your social/dating life in the real world. I wouldn't use it for anything further than that.

I agree. It makes no sense to pay money for something that artificially pretends to care about you, when you already know that's not true, and while plenty of Ai bots are free.

Keep the same chat going as you ask more questions so the bot can build on what you've told it before. But there's no getting around doing the work to get out in the world to explore potential interests in causes or activities that will bond you over time with others through a common goal or focus.

There is nobody who is perfect--we all learn by trial and error. While learning social skills we don't see most people's mistakes, but you can trust that everybody makes them, and we learn to bounce back from them. That's why most people are forgiving of mistakes and find them simple to overlook. You simply need to extend yourself enough to be WITH others and form acquaintances. Some of those develop into friendships. Those build confidence and expose you to more people, any of whom might strike simpatico with you as a romance.

Consider using meetup.com to explore groups in your area. The hosts of each group are welcoming and will introduce you to others, who will also be welcoming.

Edited Tuesday at 05:21 PM by Sanch62

[FredEire]

16 minutes ago, Sanch62 said:

I agree. It makes no sense to pay money for something that artificially pretends to care about you, when you already know that's not true, and while plenty of Ai bots are free.

Keep the same chat going as you ask more questions so the bot can build on what you've told it before. But there's no getting around doing the work to get out in the world to explore potential interests in causes or activities that will bond you over time with others through a common goal or focus.

There is nobody who is perfect--we all learn by trial and error. While learning social skills we don't see most people's mistakes, but you can trust that everybody makes them, and we learn to bounce back from them. That's why most people are forgiving of mistakes and find them simple to overlook. You simply need to extend yourself enough to be WITH others and form acquaintances. Some of those develop into friendships. Those build confidence and expose you to more people, any of whom might strike simpatico with you as a romance.

Consider using meetup.com to explore groups in your area. The hosts of each group are welcoming and will introduce you to others, who will also be welcoming.

If you struggle with social skills and connecting that sucks, theres no way around it. But nothing good ever came easy, the way through it is to try and try and try again and pick yourself up a little wiser each time even when it doesnt work out.

Subscribing to an AI girlfriend service is going to leave you feeling more hollow and lonely than ever.

[FredEire]

I would add that some of the people with the best social skills I know really really struggle with connection. They put everything into surface level thrill.

Even if you are not the world's greatest charmer if you make just a couple of really meaningful connections you are ahead of a lot of people in life, even the ones you might think have it easy.

Edited Tuesday at 06:27 PM by FredEire

[Shehaari]

I agree with the posters above OP, and would steer away from making AI your new friend.. It might sound emotionally safe, but not worth it in the long run.

56 minutes ago, FredEire said:

Subscribing to an AI girlfriend service is going to leave you feeling more hollow and lonely than ever.

1 hour ago, Sanch62 said:

Consider using meetup.com to explore groups in your area. The hosts of each group are welcoming and will introduce you to others, who will also be welcoming.

This is absolutely food for thought and really good advice. 

Going out of once comfort zone can be scary, but culticating  real-life relationships can be more rewarding for you long term.

Perhaps  using a free version of ChatGPT to gain knowledge on becoming more comfortable in social settings can help instead. 
Rather than using AI as a conversation partner, use it to gain knowlage and the neccessary tools to grow your social skills and slowly put yourself out there - perhaps a place where you can meet people that share the same passions/hobbies as you do. 

It's easier said than done, but give it a try and see how it goes

[ShyViolet]

5 hours ago, PensadorDeMedianoche said:

Maybe that could be useful, if only to make me feel a little more confident, right? Like training.

No.  Going down the rabbit hole of talking to fake AI "friends" is dangerous and creepy, and a great way to distance yourself even further from real-life social skills.  People hide behind screens, video games, long distance virtual relationships where they never meet in person, and now AI chatbots, as a way to avoid having to use real life social skills because it can be scary and difficult.  But the only way to be a mentally healthy, well adjusted person is to push yourself out of your comfort zone and force yourself to learn to interact in the real world.

[smackie9]

AI will only restrain you from living real life.