i like her very much but she has a boyfriend

[JohnDoeEX]

11 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

You heard. You don't know. 

You don't know what goes on behind closed doors between them.  Nobody does but the two of them. I would suggest you stop searching for hearsay evidence to build a case against him when her own behaviour isn't great either. And that is something you know, not just hearsay. Obvioulsy she mostly enjoys him and their relationship or she'd be single right now. 

You need to wake up. You have serious blinders on about this woman. 

well they just broke up or they took a break or something , her close friend told me , i checked her profile and she doesnt have any pictures with him anymore , my friend told me to take the chance and ask her out but i think im gonna do what you guys told me and back off , at least for now

Even if she would say yes i dont know if things would workout between us

[FredEire]

2 minutes ago, JohnDoeEX said:

well they just broke up or they took a break or something , her close friend told me , i checked her profile and she doesnt have any pictures with him anymore , my friend told me to take the chance and ask her out but i think im gonna do what you guys told me and back off , at least for now

Even if she would say yes i dont know if things would workout between us

Yes, I think you have the right instinct here!

You dont want to get involved with someone fresh out of a breakup, as you're going to be a rebound at best or a shoulder to cry on at worst.

Just do your own thing work hard at your own stuff and in time if she starts making a move on you you can decide at that point if you think its worth your time and energy.

[Sony12]

1 minute ago, JohnDoeEX said:

well they just broke up or they took a break or something , her close friend told me , i checked her profile and she doesnt have any pictures with him anymore , my friend told me to take the chance and ask her out but i think im gonna do what you guys told me and back off , at least for now

Even if she would say yes i dont know if things would workout between us

Probably the best plan. Many times these gals end up dating the same type of guy they were dating previously. They have a certain 'type' that they like. Sometimes it's because those guys excite them and other times they don't have a real high opinion of themselves so they feel most attached to guys who they feel have 'struggles' as well.

[JohnDoeEX]

3 minutes ago, Sony12 said:

Probably the best plan. Many times these gals end up dating the same type of guy they were dating previously. They have a certain 'type' that they like. Sometimes it's because those guys excite them and other times they don't have a real high opinion of themselves so they feel most attached to guys who they feel have 'struggles' as well.

yeah , most likely , i remember because one user posted that she likes bad boys and its funny because  one of her tiktok videos is about  her mom telling her to not go after bad boys anymore while showing her young mom with her young dad who was also a bad boy

so yeah i guess she likes these type of guys , its too bad , i really have to keep my distance to get her out of my head 

[JohnDoeEX]

12 minutes ago, FredEire said:

Yes, I think you have the right instinct here!

You dont want to get involved with someone fresh out of a breakup, as you're going to be a rebound at best or a shoulder to cry on at worst.

Just do your own thing work hard at your own stuff and in time if she starts making a move on you you can decide at that point if you think its worth your time and energy.

even of she starts making a move i dont think it can turn into something good , like you guys said all it takes is for me to be a little boring or not as exciting as her ex and she will start flirting /seeking attention from other guys or worse cheat on me with him

[FredEire]

1 minute ago, JohnDoeEX said:

yeah , most likely , i remember because one user posted that she likes bad boys and its funny because  one of her tiktok videos is about  her mom telling her to not go after bad boys anymore while showing her young mom with her young dad who was also a bad boy

so yeah i guess she likes these type of guys , its too bad , i really have to keep my distance to get her out of my head 

It's great that as such a young guy you have figured this out, because it's so common for slightly introverted guys to pine over the girl who gives him scraps of attention while she dates losers, thinking they can change her and that she isn't going for them because they are a "nice guy".

In reality she doesn't have her sht together, and you can let her go and sort that out while you go and do more worthwhile things and look to date girls who do have their sht together. If you're getting involved in that mess as a spectator in her orbit you're playing yourself and it will do you no favours.

[FredEire]

7 minutes ago, JohnDoeEX said:

even of she starts making a move i dont think it can turn into something good , like you guys said all it takes is for me to be a little boring or not as exciting as her ex and she will start flirting /seeking attention from other guys or worse cheat on me with him

Exactly! In reality in all liklihood she is no better a character than her bf/ex but she's pretty and than can blind guys to it.

If you put yourself in her shoes, you had a girlfriend and you started getting all flirty with other girls whenever you had a fight... that's not something to admire, its a hot mess.

Edited yesterday at 04:07 PM by FredEire