agnf666 Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 So, yah I have been dating my bf for a month now... Everything is fine... but I have a few issues... little ones that might just be me worrying over nothing but I figured I would see what you guys say about this... Okay let me give you guys a little background to this... my boyfriend broke up with his fiance of 4 years about 7 months ago. She was very bossy and controlling. She didn't let him hang out with his friends at all.... and he lost friends over it. so, he still mentions her sometimes about things that mad him mad that she would do. I understand that that was all he knew for 4 years but I'm going to get to my breaking point with that sooner or later. Now, we both work night shift. In a way it is kindof good because we can see each other after work . So, that is nice sometimes... He schedule rotates all the time so we never have the same days off. So, for the past week I have not seen him at all... due to the fact he has been working alot and the weather was nasty... So, tonight he has off of work and he is over his friends house playing poker... You would think maybe he would come over and see me... I have this major fear of saying anything becuase I don't want to be bossy like his last girlfriend. I am the complete opposite of her... I only see him at night time... I mean come on we live like 5 mintues within each other you would think maybe he would see me during the day time or something. I do talk to him everyday but he doesn't like the phone so it is like a quick 3 to 5 minute conversation. That kills me because im a addicted to the phone... but that doesn't really bother me all that much. Not seeing each other everyday is not a big deal either... I just don't want him to take me for granted... I don't think I am asking him for too much to see him twice a week. What you do you guys think???
cygny Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 it sounds like, right now, he wants a relationship that is not as close. i can kinda see that. he just got out of a long controlling relationship and is enjoying his freedom. who knows if it will change??? it has only been a month for you two. see how things go. you can kinda tell how into you he is by how often and eager he is to see you. but you already know that, don't you, lol. i would guess that it might be a mistake to 'talk' to him about it or try to put limits on him. if you don't like the relationship as he structures it, might be best to find another. just my 2 dollars. 1
Author agnf666 Posted January 18, 2006 Author Posted January 18, 2006 I mean he does spend time with me and not alot... but he was all about having an "exclusive relationship"... So, who knows... I know he likes me but I guess I will have to feel this one out right now... I decided that the next form of contact about asking if he wants to come over will be from him becuase I'm not asking him no more... He is all talking about getting back into a relationship is really new to him. So, maybe it might just take a little time to get it all together... I mean there was some nights in the past few weeks we spent about 4 days together... So, Who knows... I just hope he thinks about coming over tonight. That would be nice... but I'm not calling him... so he can call me...
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