Female Friend Keeps Disrespecting Me

[Anonymous]

I have a female friend who I’m somewhat close with. Yesterday we had a fight about  her getting her stuff from my house since she has nowhere to stay. I wanted to give her suitcase and belongings but she insisted no that she wants to keep it here because she doesn’t trust any of the guys she talks too. 
 

So yesterday I was on the phone with her and the guy she went to go visit started talking on her behalf. I got mad like she is on the phone taunting me with him since I want her to pick up her belongings. She start saying crazy things to me so I said ok. 
 

I said ok to the guy and said send me the address to drop her things since he wants to taunt me with her. He refuses to send it and she refuse to send the address because she knows he will not be there in the long run. Soon or later he will telI her to go.

I did message her and call her many times to come pick up her belongings. I ask her why can’t you ask this guy to keep your things. So last night she said she had to come to the house to change her clothes. I did not want her to come but she came. 
 

When she arrived I told her you are disrespectful to me taunting me on the phone with a guy. So she is on the phone with him and he starts yapping his mouth about me. I said ok and she didn’t say anything. I said ok get your things and leave. 
 

Maybe ask him to keep it for you. I wanted to give her the belongings and break it off with her but she refused to take her belongings saying I don’t trust that man. I said you date them so trust them. 
 

I carried her stuff and told her go ask that man to keep your stuff since he wants to yap his mouth. She refuses to take it or bring it to this house. Mind you she has so much belongings. 

[Sanch62]

I'd do two things. First, change my locks if she has a key. Meanwhile, move her stuff to a public storage site, tape the key to the front inside flap of my mailbox, and text her the address of the locker and tell her it's up to her to pay for the next month of storage or lose her stuff to the owners of that place.

[PreciousCry]

39 minutes ago, Sanch62 said:

I'd do two things. First, change my locks if she has a key. Meanwhile, move her stuff to a public storage site, tape the key to the front inside flap of my mailbox, and text her the address of the locker and tell her it's up to her to pay for the next month of storage or lose her stuff to the owners of that place.

Thank you for what you wrote. Very hard to process this. Appreciate your advice. 

Edited 20 hours ago by PreciousCry

[Sanch62]

5 minutes ago, PreciousCry said:

Thank you for what you wrote. Very hard to process this. Appreciate your advice. 

I hear, but she's a mess, and she's involving others who are a threat to you, your home, and your safety. It would be worth any amount of money to me to get her stuff out my home and keep her away from me. Consider filing for a restraining order.

[PreciousCry]

9 minutes ago, Sanch62 said:

I hear, but she's a mess, and she's involving others who are a threat to you, your home, and your safety. It would be worth any amount of money to me to get her stuff out my home and keep her away from me. Consider filing for a restraining order.

You are kind of right. I was really mad because she put a guy on the phone who is not gonna be there when it’s all said and done. I know what is gonna happen if her things was at his place. I told him since he is yapping come get her stuff. He was saying crazy stuff to me last night on the phone while she FT him. He was like keep quiet/etc so when she was about to leave my place she said I was pu***/etc while with the man on the phone giggling but I knew she was about to go to the bus stop. So when she arrived at the bus stop I carried her things without informing her and dropped it right there. She was so mad. I told her you do not put a guy on the phone to taunt me when I’m the one you call when trouble comes. She started complaining and crying that oh I don’t trust these men and said no you put him on the phone so… IDK I just don’t have anyone to vent too

Edited 20 hours ago by PreciousCry

[ShyViolet]

I would tell her that if she doesn't take her belongings within 7 days, it will be disposed of.  And follow through.  You seriously need to cut off this friendship.  She sounds like a loser.

[ExpatInItaly]

Does this woman not have a home of her own? Why is she keeping a suitcase at your place and bouncing around among different men? 

You really need to re-evaluate how you define friendship, and also your boundaries for the people you let into your life. When someone shows you very clearly that they are a trainwreck, you need to close the door and stop letting that train park in your stattion. 

How did you befriend this woman in the first place? 

Edited 8 hours ago by ExpatInItaly