slubberdegullion Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 I also mean that your SO does not go use porn or anything else to masterbate when you are there and willing. EXACTLY!! I could never understand why anyone would resort to flickering images on their TV or computer when there's a willing partner right in front of them! That makes absolutely no sense to me whatsoever.
Moai Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 I dig porn a lot, mainly because I can watch things that turn me on but I would never do IRL--multiple partners, etc. I do watch less when I am in a relationship, though, and I have never kept it a secret. I actually like it when watching with a partner. One woman I know has a huge collection of it and it was a huge turn-on.
lindya Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 EXACTLY!! I could never understand why anyone would resort to flickering images on their TV or computer when there's a willing partner right in front of them! That makes absolutely no sense to me whatsoever. Like pushing aside the nice dinner someone spent time preparing for you, then going off to pick up a Happy Meal from MacDonalds.
SmoochieFace Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Like pushing aside the nice dinner someone spent time preparing for you, then going off to pick up a Happy Meal from MacDonalds. Yep, and that is spelled D.U.M.B. Dumb.
Outcast Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 I could never understand why anyone would resort to flickering images on their TV or computer when there's a willing partner right in front of them! That makes absolutely no sense to me whatsoever. Um. In most of these cases, the woman isn't ready and willing. She's sick, she's tired, she's mad, or she's not home. Maybe she's asleep and he doesn't want to wake her up. These women freak out when guys dare to get off without them EVEN WHEN THEY'RE NOT PUTTING OUT THEMSELVES. I strenuously object to their idea that they claim the right to dictate their partners' actions and thoughts at all times. If it were men doing this to women, there'd be shrieks of 'controlling behaviour' from all quarters
Gator762 Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 Outcast has a point here... I think many of us men in relationships look at porn because we aren't getting it often enough. For me it has never been because I wanted to have another woman, but sometimes my lady would get me all thorny and then not give it up!
cygny Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 It kinda sounds to me like alot of posters are expecting women to be these incredibly evolved creatures who have mastered all their primal insecurities--and at the same time giving the men who look at porn a free pass to be under the control of their most animalistic desires. i think there needs to be more of a balance.
BlahBlahQueen Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 It kinda sounds to me like alot of posters are expecting women to be these incredibly evolved creatures who have mastered all their primal insecurities--and at the same time giving the men who look at porn a free pass to be under the control of their most animalistic desires. *BlahBlahQueen takes a bow* In my ideal world, everyone would be emotionally and intellectually enlightened, while running rampant humping every cylinder or orifice in sight. Ahh, utopia.
barfool Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 It kinda sounds to me like alot of posters are expecting women to be these incredibly evolved creatures who have mastered all their primal insecurities--and at the same time giving the men who look at porn a free pass to be under the control of their most animalistic desires. i think there needs to be more of a balance. Oh, does that make me incredibly evolved?!? I don't agree with the bit about men who watch porn being "under the control of their most animalistic desires." If that were the case they would not be at home watching porn, they would be out finding some poontang or forcing it on their sexually repressed ice-wife. What Outcast said a few posts ago is exactly what I was driving at. Cheers!
ehead Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 My girlfriend enjoys porn herself. I have to admit it is sort of odd viewing it with her. It takes a while to get used to the idea that your SO can find other people attractive as well as find you attractive. I think this is usually an issue only at the beginning of a relationship. After a while, it seems perfectly normal. She is attracted to both men and women by the way. The first couple of times she talked about a woman as being hot around me I totally found it disconcerting ... then I realized I was being hypocritical. I find other people attractive myself, I just never voiced it with her. But why not ? I didn't look at porn at all when I first started dating her. Somehow seeing other peoples interpretation of sex diminished my own experience. Also, most porn is really bad, and it doesn't represent the kind of sex I want to participate in. There is some good soft erotica out there though, that is probably more suitable for many couples.
ehead Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 The reason porn has such a bad reputation is it focuses almost exclusively on only one expression of sexuality ... male domination and female humiliation. The vast majority of porn is incredibly boring and formulaic. The producers think there is only one proper way to have sex. Blow job, vaginal sex, anal, money shot. The money shot is so popular because of it's blatant overtones of misogony and male domination. I have no problem with this to be honest. The only problem I have is that this is the ONLY sex that is dipicted on camera. How about depicting female domination ? How about even dipicting a loving sexual encounter every now and then. I have no problem with the idea of porn, just the execution. It has taken all the endless possibilities of sex and reduced it to one boring formula. It is a testament to just how un-creative the porn industry is that they could take something like sex and make it boring !
barfool Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 It is a testament to just how un-creative the porn industry is that they could take something like sex and make it boring ! You are so right. I have such problem finding really good porn, which is probably why I have the amount that I do. But when I do find it watch out! I make copies and give it to people like a sacred treasure.
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