beentheredonethat2 Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 Help us ladies on this one, we firmly believe porn is the companion of a male who doesn't get any, but help us understand this deal with dating a woman and still desiring porn?????? Aren't we enough? We know you're going to check out other women in public, but naked? It's so degrading to our self esteem. Plus, we don't get to do it with you, which really bums us out... Questioning, Ladies 1
slubberdegullion Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 I, for one, don't like porn. I can't ever get it out of my head that the girl on the screen is someone's daughter.
mel777 Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 Help us ladies on this one, we firmly believe porn is the companion of a male who doesn't get any Not all woman feel this way men. I don't and many of my friends don't. generalizations like this are narrow minded. it would be like a man starting a post that said We men frimly believe that any woman who doesn't like porn or at the very least doesn't throw a pity party when her man views it is a prude and immature.
a4a Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 My H does not like porn alone or with me..... I tried to spice it up a bit with some..... I ended up watching while working him over. He does not look at it on the computer, nor has he ordered it. No porn in his house when we met either. He does not get into strip clubs either ..... turns down invites as he states he does not want a skank taking his cash. He said it not me..... don't go off on me. But he is by far the best lover I have ever had! Gumby man! Damn Damn good! So good I had to marry him He is an atheist and far from a prude..... just does not dig women who let it all hang out I guess? BTW he is Hot as hell...... ummmmm ummmmm ummmmm a4a
a4a Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 I, for one, don't like porn. I can't ever get it out of my head that the girl on the screen is someone's daughter. Well great now you ruined porn for me! geeze....... I always tried to keep the possible under age thing out too........ how do we really know that some of these girls are over 18........ some look too young... was there not one that was doing porn before 18 years of age? I forget her name. As for a man needing porn if not getting it...... H admits to monthly masturbation before we met..... he did not have sex, not even a date for 3.5 years..... did not find a woman that was worth his while. Then again he is old.... 36..... a4a- la dee da dee doo
Outcast Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 I can't ever get it out of my head that the girl on the screen is someone's daughter. Everybody is someone's daughter. Including your own gf. And no, this is not an issue for all women so kindly speak for yourself, beenthere. 1
Defcon Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Help us ladies on this one, we firmly believe porn is the companion of a male who doesn't get any, but help us understand this deal with dating a woman and still desiring porn?????? Aren't we enough? We know you're going to check out other women in public, but naked? It's so degrading to our self esteem. Plus, we don't get to do it with you, which really bums us out... Questioning, Ladies Its been my understanding (I don't "study" guys much so try to bare with me) that guys have a mental state that is "engaged" when a strong enuff sexual desire "sweeps" by to get them 'horny' or 'aroused', more of a "fanticitical" state of mind about sex. They want thier strongest sexual desires fulfilled, and I am guessing in most guys that is done by porn and/or 'gentlemen' clubs. I personally don't care for porn, its never really interested me, but I do know alot of girls who are heavy into porn.. Im still tring to figure that one out, and I think im almost there If you have an idea plz share it, would take a little bit off my mind.
BlahBlahQueen Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 And no, this is not an issue for all women so kindly speak for yourself, beenthere. Thank you! I, for one, have a vast porn collection, and I'd be a little scared of a man who was morally opposed to it.
cygny Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 My H does not like porn alone or with me..... I tried to spice it up a bit with some..... I ended up watching while working him over. He does not look at it on the computer, nor has he ordered it. No porn in his house when we met either. He does not get into strip clubs either ..... turns down invites as he states he does not want a skank taking his cash. He said it not me..... don't go off on me. But he is by far the best lover I have ever had! Gumby man! Damn Damn good! So good I had to marry him He is an atheist and far from a prude..... just does not dig women who let it all hang out I guess? BTW he is Hot as hell...... ummmmm ummmmm ummmmm a4a could you kindly clone him and send me a few copies?? 1
cygny Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 ok here is my own view and i already know it is contradictory but what can i say-- i look at porn and get off on it. however, i do not want a guy i am serious about to be heavily into it. occasional view is ok, but if he sneaks around and has to do it alot...no like here reason is probably because...i think he should be focused on doing me...so if he needed naked pics of me that would be ok...
slubberdegullion Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Everybody is someone's daughter. Including your own gf. Exactly. Now, currently I'm not in a relationship, but that's something I never forget. That's why I like to treat milady with gentleness, kindness and respect. Porn, on the other hand, is seldom about respect (at least from what I've seen). I know that smart people can disagree on this issue, but that's just MHO.
Author beentheredonethat2 Posted January 18, 2006 Author Posted January 18, 2006 Thanks for the responses, everyone, it is really helpful to hear. Cigny, I did do just what you said, I gave my guy some nice naked pics of me, and he went and locked them up so I couldn't take them...he thought I was going to do something on the computer with them, but I told him if he needs to look at naked women in sexy poses I would be HAPPY to do that for him.... And yes, I probably did generalize and when I'm single porn's not so bad, I just have an issue with being in a long-term loving relationship and expressing to your partner it bothers you, but they insist on continuing it. Makes me feel, well you're better off single...dumped a guy for that, among other reasons. BTW found the pictures sneakily hidden, ripped them up....but damn me he stole the cd with the pics on it. I even disguised it as something else and put it in a different cover.... Hmmm wonder where those are now> He doesn't even know how to use a computer, much less get info from a CD...
Author beentheredonethat2 Posted January 18, 2006 Author Posted January 18, 2006 BTW it's so good to know there's SlubberDegullions out there
Weye Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Porn use is normal. The statistics are staggering enough to say that the vast majority of men and a significant number of women are into porn. Porn is here to stay and its not going away. There's nothing worng with porn. I don't watch porn much myself. Vary rarely, like a few times a year. But I still would not date a girl who objected to it as much as some of the posters here. I see girls like that as immature. It tells me that they have unrealistic expectations. Guys like porn! Live with it or go be a nun! BTW found the pictures sneakily hidden, ripped them up....but damn me he stole the cd with the pics on it. I even disguised it as something else and put it in a different cover.... Wow, you sure do have a loving relationship thats build on trust and strong communication. 1
Author beentheredonethat2 Posted January 18, 2006 Author Posted January 18, 2006 Trust and porn just don't seem to go together, are you from a fraternity with that nasty smile on your face, oh wait a sorority?????
BlahBlahQueen Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Trust and porn just don't seem to go together, are you from a fraternity with that nasty smile on your face, oh wait a sorority????? Real evolved of you, beenthere.
Weye Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 are you from a fraternity with that nasty smile on your face, oh wait a sorority????? Actually I just got back from a sorority with my frat brothers after filming for Wet & Wild College Chicks #16
lindya Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 There's quite an interesting discussion on porn here... http://www.markdanner.com/harpers/nov1984.htm involving people with a variety of viewpoints. The female perspective seemed to be that porn tends to depict sex as a grim, joyless and frequently quite hostile activity. The pornographer's response was to make an ad hominem attack on them for taking this view. This is quite similar to what happens on Loveshack a lot of the time. It seems that of all the money-making enterprises, porn stands apart as a sacred cow; something that one reproaches or criticises at one's peril. It's an industry that has done very well out of free speech legislation...but one whose advocates seem loathe to accept that others who disagree with them also have the right to free speech. Note the extent to which anyone who questions the all-pervasive impact of porn tends to be browbeaten and subjected to personal attacks about their own sexuality....however measured and objective they attempt to be in voicing their opinions about this subject. I can't help but marvel at the way the porn industry has managed to manipulate the chattering classes into embracing it. The cheapest, grimiest and most exploitative films are analysed with all the respect and reverence that might be afforded to a rare and important artwork. So now, porn appeals not just to the physical masturbators, but to the intellectual wankers too. That's a real master stroke, if you'll excuse the pun.
BlahBlahQueen Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 There's quite an interesting discussion on porn here... http://www.markdanner.com/harpers/nov1984.htm involving people with a variety of viewpoints. Currently in the middle of the article... fascinating read! I don't agree with your stance on this, the pornographer's or the feminists' necessarily, but it is food for thought.
lindya Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Currently in the middle of the article... fascinating read! I don't agree with your stance on this, the pornographer's or the feminists' necessarily, but it is food for thought. It's an old discussion (1984) but still very much the same issues that are discussed today. My stance on porn is difficult to agree or disagree with, because it's constantly shifting according to what I see around me. If I sensed society's mood switching to a very puritanical stance, I would probably start arguing in defence of the porn industry. My feeling just now is that the balance of power is weighted too heavily in favour of the industry, so my natural inclination is to argue against it.
barfool Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 I am a woman who enjoys porn. I don't feel like it's degrading to the women or men, they both chose that profession. They chose to be sex objects. I don't agree with the view that beenthere and many of the women take. At the same time I don't say that I am right and you are wrong. Rather than addressing porn and its problems I think it would be much better to resolve the issues the women have with themselves and their relationships. I know that I used to have a problem with porn when I was young and insecure. Now I love myself and am in touch with my sexuality and can enjoy it as a tool for sexual release, just like my vibrator.
a4a Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Rather than addressing porn and its problems I think it would be much better to resolve the issues the women have with themselves and their relationships. Porn = womens issues with themselves? I do not think that every person that does not enjoy or like porn has issues, be it a woman or a man. Most people do enjoy fantasy or some sort of stimulation. But not all do require or want that in their life for whatever reason they have it is up to them to decide if it is right for them or not. I am quite happy in my own skin, but if my H was pulling his pud to porn daily I may have a problem with it. However we chatted about porn and I knew his stance on porn quite early on so it works out great for us. Being considerate and trying to understand your partners feelings is very important. My H prefers that I do not attend bars with swinging dicks in my face, (I have no interest in going to a schlong bar), but I would turn down a party invite knowing that it would probably upset him. The same with porn, his feeling are more important to me than sexual fanstasies that I may have. Porn has become so mainstream now. I remember when I was a kid one of my friends parents had porn movies, it was on a film reel... ..... now you just type in big boobs .com on the computer and that will link you to sex sites all over. And lets face it some of it is just complete crap, funny as hell, and some is so over the top with the moaning shyt it is annoying. Taking the taboo off of it is kinda making it too bland for me. All of a sudden a great idea just popped into my lil head We need a reality show "So you want to be a Porn Star"....... now that would be interesting I think that deserves a new thread....... a4a
barfool Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 I didn't mean liking or disliking porn means you have issues with yourself. I mean feeling threatened by it does. And in that I also mean that your SO does not go use porn or anything else to masterbate when you are there and willing.
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