Hi, what should i do?

[insertNameHeree]

Hi, i am new. Sorry, if this is the wrong site or wrong topic that i selected. This is what i am going to say. So, this is what i want to say and ask. So, the names are not the real ones as i don't feel comfortable sharing them. Sorry for that. English is not my native language so sorry if i make mistakes. I had messaged that girl again 1 month before the message that you are going to see at the end of the text.She wanted to go for a coffee with me, she suggested it to me while she had a boyfriend that she didnt go well with him(she has broken up i am almost sure) and i told her since she has a bf i dont think it is right to go out for a coffee with her. Since i spend my time alone and i dont have friends i had changed my mind the same day and told her that since spending my time alone is super boring we could go out for a coffee but she didnt answer that message, she only read it. 24 hours had passed and i told her sorry if i said anything wrong and that i am anxious abd he told me that i didnt do anything wrong and that she understands that i am anxious. 1 month approximately after, i sent the translated message which will be in the end of the text. She onky read the message but in my job (we are coworkers) she wants me to talk to her as far as i understand. Forbexample  i asked a coworker just for fun who is a girl if she wants me to make her a gift since she was gonna stop working there and Sophie told me that she wants a gift drom me and also there are more things that i could say. So people should i send her again a message asking her if she wantsnto go out with me? She seems a good person but of course i dont know if she really is. Maybe i misplayed since the message that i am gonna send now might be a misplay as i said by me. "To be honest, Sophie, Emily told me that Anna wanted me to go for a coffee with her. I told Emily, “I don’t know.”
I’m not really sure why, but in person I don’t talk the same way I do here. I think I mentioned to you about a month ago that I might have a mild form of autism — maybe that explains it a bit.
Anyway, I just want to say that I actually messaged Anna Carter to go out, in case she was the one who wanted to meet.
Would you like to go out for a coffee, whether she accepts or not? Even though I get anxious, I’d still like to go if you want. I think I get nervous because I’ve never gone out with a woman before.
I know it’s been about a month since I last texted you, but lately I’ve started to feel like going out again (I haven’t really hung out with my friends for about three years).
I’m not sure, if you do want to go out and you don’t have other obligations, whether we’ll go out again after that — I just want to try it and see how it feels. With my friends, I eventually stopped because I didn’t feel fulfilled as a person, maybe because I spend too much time online and I’m trying to cut back.
Still, I’d really like to give it a try and see how it goes." 
So should i text her now and try for a last time because loneliness is killing me and i think that she is a good person that is at least what i am seeing when i work with her. Thanks in advance if anyone is going to reply.

[Carlston]

I'm thinking that before you expect any degree of sucess in the dating world you need to work on building your confidence.

 

 

[insertNameHeree]

14 minutes ago, Carlston said:

I'm thinking that before you expect any degree of sucess in the dating world you need to work on building your confidence.

 

 

Should i not message her then? To be honest i dont know if she is the right person for me but loneliness is killing me. Go out with her to learn what kind of person she is. Not to look desperately for a relationship if we dont match as personalities.

[Carlston]

Whatever you do stop apologizing and stop asking questions.

Be the strong confident guy that woman find attractive. Even if it's a total act.

Call her up and ask her out but have a date, time and place in mind, not "hi would you like to go out with me sometime?"

[Sanch62]

7 hours ago, insertNameHeree said:

"To be honest, Sophie, Emily told me that Anna wanted me to go for a coffee with her. I told Emily, “I don’t know.”
I’m not really sure why, but in person I don’t talk the same way I do here. I think I mentioned to you about a month ago that I might have a mild form of autism — maybe that explains it a bit.
Anyway, I just want to say that I actually messaged Anna Carter to go out, in case she was the one who wanted to meet.
Would you like to go out for a coffee, whether she accepts or not? Even though I get anxious, I’d still like to go if you want. I think I get nervous because I’ve never gone out with a woman before.
I know it’s been about a month since I last texted you, but lately I’ve started to feel like going out again (I haven’t really hung out with my friends for about three years).
I’m not sure, if you do want to go out and you don’t have other obligations, whether we’ll go out again after that — I just want to try it and see how it feels. With my friends, I eventually stopped because I didn’t feel fulfilled as a person, maybe because I spend too much time online and I’m trying to cut back.
Still, I’d really like to give it a try and see how it goes." 

Did you say all of this in your last text? It sounds like a bunch of gossip and true confessions. It's not a great way to ask a woman for coffee.

I'd back off and see if she ever approaches you again. If you are lonely, why aren't you tending to your friendships? Don't dump that on anyone you want to date.

[smackie9]

Dating someone isn't going to cure your loneliness. It is you that needs to address your situation. I hope you seek out some therapy so you can figure out what happened to your social life...don't be blaming others, it was you who made the decision to not make effort to sustain or create new friendships. That right there is your starting point. You need social interaction, friends, maybe one or two and start living life going out, enjoying parties, attend evens, hanging out, playing board games, etc. Once you establish that, going out and talking to girls, enjoying their company will give you more confidence. To attract a girl, you need to put your best foot forward, dress for success, be put together, as just like your social life. No girl wants to date a guy that is desperate, lonely, has no friends, do nothing socially...that's a big turn off. So you need to get your act together first before some lovely lady would be interested. Be mature, confident, look good, smell good, smile a lot, good eye contact, established socially. That is your win. 

Edited Saturday at 06:17 PM by smackie9