Should I keep talking to her or let it fade?

[technotitans360]

I got connected to a girl on Instagram through a common friend. We’ve been chatting for almost a month now. She replies instantly most of the time (or within 10 minutes), engages really well in conversations, likes my posts and stories, and is even open to going on a date when I visit.

The thing is, I don’t live in my home country right now — I’ll only be visiting in January. Until then, everything has to stay online. That’s where my problem comes in. I’m not great at online conversations. I’m way better in person — people usually enjoy my company when I’m physically there, but I struggle to keep things interesting over text.

Also, I’m terrible at flirting. I usually end up being the one who always starts the conversation, and she never really initiates on her own.

I genuinely like her and want things to go well, but I don’t know if I should keep trying or just stop forcing it until I meet her in person.

Would love some honest advice — should I continue talking to her or slowly pull back until I visit?

[Carlston]

Of course you need to keep talking to her and remain connected if you plan to see her in 2 months.

If you find text exchanges to be such a challenge and do better in person then take it to video chat. 

 

 

[Sony12]

Yes if distance is an issue but you would like it he feel more real than texting does than do a regular phone chat or video chat where you can express yourself a little better then written words.

 

[technotitans360]

No, I don’t feel comfortable asking for her number just yet. For now, I’d rather keep things in chat — I want to build a better connection through our conversations first, and then meeting in person will make everything fall into place naturally, I know she will share phone number or say yes for a video chat but still its me who needs time in that 

 

[smackie9]

I will tell you this, if you try too hard and try to escalate things over text for months, don't do it. It will fizzle out before you can blink. What happens is since you two don't "talk" or see each other in person, just chat over text, the brain starts to fill in things that are not there, perceptions turn into a fantasy of things. Things will go sideways before you know it. You are right, it is best to know each other in person. So cool your jets, be calm, express yourself more in your stories, snaps, chat here and there. Let her SEE you living your best fun life. Being mysterious, a little bit unobtainable makes the desire grow so don't worry about "flirting, or talking the smooth talk....let pic and SM do the talking.

[FredEire]

I would say it rather depends on the vibe. If you are in constant touch and things are escalating more and more, you can go with that.

It it feels more like marking time and chatting just to remind her you are there, pull back a little bit and just wait until it comes time to see her. Yes there is the possibility she may forget about it or meet someone else but its better not to force things, just lets what's going to happen happen.