situationship with a married coworker

[morgina]

me and my coworker have had moments where there have been sparks, but i chalked it off due to her flirting with me and another guy at work, assumed it was all just for attention. its been going on for a year or so where we started of texting a lot at the beginning throughout the hours of the day and night, but now its been more sporadic (probably because i didn't initiate anything, afraid of the repercussions). a few months ago she started with subtle hand touches and longing looks across the office but denied any feelings for me and would not cheat. fast forward to a recently where she intimately puts her hand on top of mine as i was controlling the mouse, i was kinda taken off-guard and just withdrew my hand and i think she felt rejected by that, and has stopped communicating as much to me over text.

the whole point is, was she really into me or not? after our discussion i nipped it in the bud and thought she was just being overly flirty but i did not or ever seen her be as intimate as a hand grab. i also did the same thing to her, grabbed her hand as she was using the mouse, and she did not withdraw her hand. they may be hand touches but i do not see women letting work friends touch them like that

[denwickdroylsden]

Sounds to me like she made a move, you declined, and she's withdrawn. Highly doubt she will expose herself that way again, having been rejected. Best outcome for both of you, IMHO, as cheating seldom works out well, especially in the workplace.

[ExpatInItaly]

11 hours ago, morgina said:

the whole point is, was she really into me or not? 

A better question: what difference would the answer make? 

 

[flitzanu]

14 hours ago, morgina said:

 but denied any feelings for me and would not cheat.

that's your answer.

just because she touched your hand doesnt mean she's trying to have an affair.  people can touch each other, and touching your hand moving a mouse is very different than grabbing your hand and putting your finger in her mouth.