morgina Posted October 22 Posted October 22 me and my coworker have had moments where there have been sparks, but i chalked it off due to her flirting with me and another guy at work, assumed it was all just for attention. its been going on for a year or so where we started of texting a lot at the beginning throughout the hours of the day and night, but now its been more sporadic (probably because i didn't initiate anything, afraid of the repercussions). a few months ago she started with subtle hand touches and longing looks across the office but denied any feelings for me and would not cheat. fast forward to a recently where she intimately puts her hand on top of mine as i was controlling the mouse, i was kinda taken off-guard and just withdrew my hand and i think she felt rejected by that, and has stopped communicating as much to me over text. the whole point is, was she really into me or not? after our discussion i nipped it in the bud and thought she was just being overly flirty but i did not or ever seen her be as intimate as a hand grab. i also did the same thing to her, grabbed her hand as she was using the mouse, and she did not withdraw her hand. they may be hand touches but i do not see women letting work friends touch them like that
denwickdroylsden Posted October 22 Posted October 22 Sounds to me like she made a move, you declined, and she's withdrawn. Highly doubt she will expose herself that way again, having been rejected. Best outcome for both of you, IMHO, as cheating seldom works out well, especially in the workplace.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 22 Posted October 22 11 hours ago, morgina said: the whole point is, was she really into me or not? A better question: what difference would the answer make? 3
flitzanu Posted October 22 Posted October 22 14 hours ago, morgina said: but denied any feelings for me and would not cheat. that's your answer. just because she touched your hand doesnt mean she's trying to have an affair. people can touch each other, and touching your hand moving a mouse is very different than grabbing your hand and putting your finger in her mouth. 1
Sanch62 Posted October 23 Posted October 23 On 10/21/2025 at 10:58 PM, morgina said: i do not see women letting work friends touch them like that Sounds like you're making too much out of it. Reaching for a mouse is pretty reflexive; I've done it over the years only to laugh and apologize, but then I'd get offered the thing to drive for a minute. No big deal. If you want to read stuff into this coworker, that's your monkey, your circus. Is it smart and good for your head? Nope.
MsJayne Posted October 23 Posted October 23 Usually the Office Sleaze is a man. She's married, and that means that either she is, A) in an open marriage and her husband doesn't mind her hitting on other men, or B) a sleazy office grub who should keep her paws to herself and stop interacting with colleagues in a sexually suggestive way. Which do you think is more likely? As for the longing looks and subtle hand touches, does this woman think she's in a Mills and Boon novel? I'm surprised you're not turned off by such cheesy behaviour, I've got second-hand embarrassment just reading about it. Why are you so interested in a married sleaze-bag when there's plenty of attractive single women? In your shoes I wouldn't be able to resist finding a girlfriend and making a big deal of my hot babe in front of Mrs Paws, it would be no end of fun watching her ego wrestle with that.
BreakOnThrough Posted October 24 Posted October 24 Concentrate on your work, if you can't, leave your job.
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