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[Anonymous]

Ten years ago I found out my husband had a 3 year affair with his highschool sweetheart. He reached out the her and it began from there. He apologized profusely and we decided to work on our marriage. He sent her a text ending the affair. She never responded to that text. I have come to find out that for the lasts 10 years he has emailed her every year on her birthday. Every Christmas and New Years and random messages throughout the year. She never responded to any of them expect for this last birthday message 7 months ago. The affair restarted. Why is this happening again and where do I go from here 

[Gebidozo]

Sorry that it has happened to you.

It is happening against because your husband is a cheater who can’t be trusted.

Obviously, you should divorce him as soon as possible.

The chances that a marriage could be repaired after one of the partners had had a 3-year affair were very slim to begin with.

It wasn’t some kind of a one-time drunken slip, it was a whole chunk of life spent engaging in systematic deception. Just imagine what kind of person is capable of lying to his spouse for 3 (!) years.

Please stop hurting yourself and divorce that man.

[Sanch62]

6 hours ago, Anonymous said:

Why is this happening again and where do I go from here 

Because someone who would deceive you for 3 years can also deceive you for 13 years or however long you're willing to stick around for it.

Today, you have clarity that if you're willing to stay with this man, you're also willing to tolerate this affair or any others he may be hiding from you, because you won't stop him, no matter what he says to appease you.

I'm very sorry, and my heart goes out to you.