brasskat Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 I started work at a new job and immediately found myself crushing on the man who works next door. I couldn't help wanting to walk by so we could smile at each other and would go over frequently to eat (he works in a restaurant). We would both chat and smile and flirt...this went on for seven months. Finally it got to a point where I couldn't take it anymore and I got up the nerve to ask him out, but before I had the chance he asked me out. Needless to say I was exstatic. We went out several times and it was always great. We had great conversations and spent hours and hours on the phone with each other. This was over about a month and a half. I have never dated someone who I respected so much and was fascinated by the way they thought about things and their morals and values. It felt like we had a really strong connection, like we just "got" each other. Just recently he told me his ex girlfriend, whom he dated for 5 months (and had moved away because she had a child in another state) was moving back. They had broken up about 2 months before he asked me out because of her move. He then proceeded to tell me that he was still in love with her and had not stopped loving her, it was just that she had moved and he thought it was over. Now that she is moving back they want to get back together. I told him I understood and wished him the best. Unfortunately I don't know how to get over it. It is like walking away from something that you know is wonderful and perfect for you. We have remained friendly - as I see him often (he works right next door) and we always say the friendly hello but not much more into conversation than that. I just don't know what to do to move forward since he has made his decision on what is right for him. A friend said just wait and see. If they were going to end things because of a move then it probably won't work out. But I don't know if I could take pining and pining over something that I only hope would happen. Could someone give me some advice on what I could do?
WindDrifter Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Sorry I am not a love doctor but one option would be to not go by the restaurant any more. Maybe a little bit of NC will get him coming your way. if not then try move on with your life and don't get into situation where you will have to see him. All you will be doing is hurting yourself by seeing what you can't have. Its like being on a diet and spending a hour each day in a cake shop! Good Luck I hope things work out. Cheers, WD
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