KellieHarman Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 Hi there I am 21 and I live with my boyfriend who is 23. He has recently been banned from the local gym after complaints about him taking photos of men getting dressed. He's been banned from another local one too, after a man saw him taking the photos and threatened to kill him. What do I do about it? what problems has he got? I talked to him about it, but he said it's none of my business - but is it and what do I do?? advice appreciated Kellie x
a4a Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 Well is it Tuesday Troll Day? if so I would say get him mini cam....better yet video and set up an internet website and cash in on it. if it is not Tuesday Troll day........ RUN! a4a
JadeStar Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 'What problems has he got?" Well unless he is a professional photographer for a mens fitness magazine, my guess is he is either bi or gay. Just a guess though. Jade
bluechocolate Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 I talked to him about it, but he said it's none of my business - but is it and what do I do?? My first thoughts were that he's gay or bisexual & too afraid to buy some gay porn. I think you have a right to know why he's taking those photos and what he does with them. It's very odd behaviour.
Author KellieHarman Posted January 17, 2006 Author Posted January 17, 2006 'What problems has he got?" Well unless he is a professional photographer for a mens fitness magazine, my guess is he is either bi or gay. Just a guess though. Jade He isn't a photographer for any fitness magazine, he's an office worker. Well is it Tuesday Troll Day? if so I would say get him mini cam....better yet video and set up an internet website and cash in on it. if it is not Tuesday Troll day........ RUN! a4a Please stop insulting 'newbies' like me who come here for advice, it isn't acceptable. Can we get back on topic?
lilmoma1973 Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 Is this a troll? Ok if not then i will bite ,he is gay or bi as JADE said but not so sure it is even real!!!
JayKay Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 I don't know why he's in the habit of violating others' privacy... but sounds like he's got some pretty deep seated issues. And he's most certainly gay or bi....or just likes violating others. Not great boyfriend material, if you ask me.
Author KellieHarman Posted January 17, 2006 Author Posted January 17, 2006 I talked to him about it, but he said it's none of my business - but is it and what do I do?? My first thoughts were that he's gay or bisexual & too afraid to buy some gay porn. I think you have a right to know why he's taking those photos and what he does with them. It's very odd behaviour. I tried to discuss it with him, but he refused to - and he also said it was nothing to do with me. The next day, I asked him if he was gay or bisexual, but he said no, he loves me and wants to be with me. He refused to discuss the incident any further. What do I do now??
Author KellieHarman Posted January 17, 2006 Author Posted January 17, 2006 Is this a troll? Ok if not then i will bite ,he is gay or bi as JADE said but not so sure it is even real!!! This is genuine, please stop I'm assuming I'm a 'troll'.
JadeStar Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 You need to get to the root of whats going on. If hes telling you its none of your business then he is hiding something. Is it possible you could go to one of the gyms he was at and talk with someone there? Maybe ask around if anyone knew him and why he was doing what he was doing? Jade
Author KellieHarman Posted January 17, 2006 Author Posted January 17, 2006 I don't know why he's in the habit of violating others' privacy... but sounds like he's got some pretty deep seated issues. And he's most certainly gay or bi....or just likes violating others. Not great boyfriend material, if you ask me. He was great when I met him.... now he seems obsessed with the photos of men from the gym.... I'm worried!
JadeStar Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 He was great when I met him.... now he seems obsessed with the photos of men from the gym.... I'm worried! How does he act when he is with you? Is he distant? Does he act as if things are fine in the bedroom? Have you noticed anything else unusual other than him taking pics of men at the gym? Jade
littlekitty Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 You're going to have to force the issue I think..! Is it in anyway possible, that he's taking pictures to compare himself to? I know he could just look at fitness magazines or something, but could it be something simpler than the 'gay/bi' thing? My ex bf and his mates took basically nude pics of each other to chart thier gym progress.... not quite the same thing granted, but I didn't assume he was bi/gay because of it! You have to tell him you want an answer or your off? Because can you really stay if you don't know the truth?
a4a Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 No "normal" man that already got busted once for it is going to do it again. Serious issues..... I knew a guy that would steal purses and just sniff them. a4a
thegoodhubbie Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 I don't mean to be rude, but if this IS real, do you really need to ask for advice? Your boyfriend is taking pictures of men at a gym and was banned from two separate facilities, and when confronted he tells you IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. Doesn't that raise a big red flag? Would you marry this man? Why would you want to encumber yourself with someone like this? You are young. I can assure you someone else far better will come along. Just a tiny bit of critical thinking here would solve your problem.
Outcast Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 Every troll insists, indignantly, that it's not a troll. That's usually a real good clue that it's a troll.
RainyDayWoman Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 Every troll insists, indignantly, that it's not a troll. That's usually a real good clue that it's a troll. that's like saying "denial is the first step." this particular poster, however, seemed awfully comfortable with the lingo and was poised to defend...
Milo Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 He was great when I met him.... now he seems obsessed with the photos of men from the gym.... I'm worried! Stop seeing him. It's as simple as that. Any man who is obsessed with taking pictures of other men in the locker room is either bisexual or gay, neither of which is what I would imagine most women are looking for. Add to that he is a peeper. So....DTMFA!
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