respect_urself Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 WTF!? I am really confused, my ex and I broke up about a year ago. She has recently started haunting my dreams.... and as a result I have begun to miss her. I haven't felt that way in a long time. I think it also maybe because I moved to PDX for her about a year ago and soon after that we broke up, so this time brings memories back for me. I got an e-mail from my ex about a month ago which put her back in my mind, I didn't write back, she does not desrve an answer from me.... See the weird thing is that TODAY I hung out with a girl I sort of like, its lukewarm and uncomplicated between us. We layed in bed all day having sex. In between our sex sessions I would fall to sleep and DREAM ABOUT MY EX! Its so weird, I did not think about my ex while me and this woman were having sex, but I did after we would stop and cuddle. I just don't know, it didn't feel right for some reason... The last person I had sex before this new person was my ex who I was deeply in love with, someone who I had intimacy with. Post sex cuddling is something I really enjoyed and with this person it felt forced, IT FELT A LITTLE FAKE. Like we were both trying to fake an intimacy that wasn't there. I didn't used to be like this, I used to f***c people and feel okay with them being in my arms aftewards, I feel like being in love has changed everything for me. SO MY QUESTION IS: Am I missing my ex or am I missing the intimacy we had together? My ex was sort of an as*hole to me and I don't really miss her personality, but I did love her despite her faults.... or is it that I loved the idea of her and the idea of being in love with her and that is whay I miss... Someone please help.
Sami_D Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 It's quite possible that this new relationship is bringing up issues that were connected with your ex. Your mind is making the connection and it's coming out in dreams about her. I'd just leave it at that and not attach any more significance to it.
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