Dagny Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 So, I met this male on the internet...stupid thing to do. He seemed awesome, funny, smart, intelligent, aggressive, but yet so nice. He cooked, watched funny cartoons, had a social life and supposed friends. Oh the list of advantages go on and on..oh silly me. I was bowled over by the smarminess, the sweetness and the seeming intelligence. So bowled over that it was a whirlwind romance. I lost my head and decided to move in with him for the summer before I had to go back to school. However little things started to pop up. He wanted unprotected sex, (which I was silly enough to give him because I was so sure I was a great judge of character) and he was always right with regards to everything. So being naive, I go back to school again, and decided that this male was worth it enough to visit again. In the meanwhile, he visits Thailand (Oh god, thailand of all things, land of milk, honey, and women of sanctity and purity). Which I eagerly await his return and expect to hear adventure stories of thailand, sans women and all. He returns, has unprotected sex with me, and then kindly informs me that i was fun but "did not change his world." Alas. c‘est la vie. what could I say. I take my woe and tears back with me to school, got a life, backpacked, became a leader of a organization, gathered a few awards for being outstanding, and basically forgot about him. Happy ending. Happy ending..not. The creep appears in my life again 3 months later to inform me he has chlamydia. Not only that, who knows what other diseases he might be rife with. At this point, I am so angry at his lack of concern for another person‘s well being and obvious irresponsibility for his own body. Who goes screw a third world hooker in thailand and then comes back and screws someone he knew did not sleep with another person for the past 2 yrs before she met him. Everything came into clear focus. The girl friends he did‘nt get along with? He did‘nt have empathy with them. The fact he dropped out of college because he had his own business? Too arrogant to stay and get a degree. For god‘s sake, he could‘nt even write an appropriate cover letter to save his life. The funny thing about posting in the coping section is: I don't want him anymore. I am filled with the blood lust and revenge. At other times I think about the possibility of HIV and I just break down and cry bitter tears. I have so much to look forward to. I don't want to die just because of one misjudged incident with a creep. I feel absolutely low and used. I never got an apology from him. When I wrote asking for more details, he acted offended and defensive. The gist of it is. he might have given me an std. I need as much information as possible. and that is my rambling.
My_Other_I Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 Chlamydia is the most common STD in the US. It's also a treatable one. Go to a doctor, they will give you a treatment (not very expensive) and go to an STD clinic to get tested. Most people don't know they have chlamydia, the symptoms are sometimes just not there. Be appreciative that he's told you (at least he has that much manner) and take care of it now. If it's the only one he gave you, it's nothing to worry about. I always say that if I had to choose an STD, chlamydia is it. Black humour, but really, it is the cureable one. Good luck! ...and don't wait!
Neptune Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 Just get tested for STD`s. That is the only way to know and it must be done because if you have chlamydia the sooner it is treated the better. Some one should write a book called "Smart Women, Foolish Choices"
Author Dagny Posted January 17, 2006 Author Posted January 17, 2006 I'm not afraid of Chylamydia. In fact I went to the doctors today as soon as I could. She probed me around abit and said I had a higher white blood cell count and gave me the medicine anyway. I'm afraid of HIV because it takes 3 months to show up and I'm afraid. The funny thing is that I asked her about HIV, and then started bawling in the middle of the room. And she was trying to take my blood pressure. In the end she just wrote "Really upset" on my little board. And I'm going to get tested soon, I'm just really afraid of what I'm going to find considering this male has obviously been having unprotected sex with random people. It did not help that the nurse patted my arm and went: "If it is positive. There's a great support network here. I cannot believe I thought the world of someone, and he turned out to be such a liar. When I wrote to him initially after he broke up with me asking about stds, he wrote a self righteous long e-mail back about me being annoying threatening and insulting. And he had an std in the first place. I thought about giving him credit that he told me about chlamydia. But I think ive given too many excuses for him. I thought about him while backpacking in Morocco. And despite harsh words and all, I continued just thinking he was a nice guy. My favorite movie was eternal sunshine, I'm one of those sentimental people who think c'est la vie, at least I have memories. He totally has ripped that image from me. He totally lied about not having sex in Thailand, about his sexual history, and he had the gall to be self righteous. Thanks for the support. Really. All I need to do is rant and take that HIV test.
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