witabix Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Interesting discussion. I agreed with Woggle's original post. Some of the questions asked by the males here are quite interesting too. Being yourself as a man can be a hard thing to do. I am sure we all understand womens issues vis a vis empowerment and equality etc. There is no equivalent masculinist movement. Men need to feel empowered to show their emotions, to be who they are and not what society says they should be. Of course their are some good things about masculinity and they should not be lost. There needs to be more of a balance in society in general to allow men to free themselves from the stereotyping that we do, mostly subconsciously, to each other. Being yourself, truly yourself, can be a hard thing to do. Finding someone who you can truly be yourself with is equally difficult. It requires a pair of people who actually allow each other to be themselves, people who possess a pigeonholeless mind, you have to see beyond skin colour, height, weight, tonsural styles, fashion, even gender. See the 'spirit' of the other person, and more importantly, show your 'spirit' to them. If you have a completely unblemished, whiter than white, spirit cool. Most of us have at least a few dark spots. These must also be made available for the outside world to view. Hiding your inner being from the world means that NO ONE will ever know you, and therefore be unable to make an informed decision as to whether you are right for each other. I feel passionately that this true. My experience is that this 'style', if you like, can be very uncomfortable for people to deal with. I expect a woman to feel the same way about openness as I do.
Author Woggle Posted January 18, 2006 Author Posted January 18, 2006 Interesting discussion. I agreed with Woggle's original post. Some of the questions asked by the males here are quite interesting too. Being yourself as a man can be a hard thing to do. I am sure we all understand womens issues vis a vis empowerment and equality etc. There is no equivalent masculinist movement. Men need to feel empowered to show their emotions, to be who they are and not what society says they should be. Of course their are some good things about masculinity and they should not be lost. There needs to be more of a balance in society in general to allow men to free themselves from the stereotyping that we do, mostly subconsciously, to each other. Being yourself, truly yourself, can be a hard thing to do. Finding someone who you can truly be yourself with is equally difficult. It requires a pair of people who actually allow each other to be themselves, people who possess a pigeonholeless mind, you have to see beyond skin colour, height, weight, tonsural styles, fashion, even gender. See the 'spirit' of the other person, and more importantly, show your 'spirit' to them. If you have a completely unblemished, whiter than white, spirit cool. Most of us have at least a few dark spots. These must also be made available for the outside world to view. Hiding your inner being from the world means that NO ONE will ever know you, and therefore be unable to make an informed decision as to whether you are right for each other. I feel passionately that this true. My experience is that this 'style', if you like, can be very uncomfortable for people to deal with. I expect a woman to feel the same way about openness as I do. I have no problem showing my dark side flaws and all. This is who I am and why should I hide it.
BlahBlahQueen Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 If you have a completely unblemished, whiter than white, spirit cool. Most of us have at least a few dark spots. These must also be made available for the outside world to view. Hiding your inner being from the world means that NO ONE will ever know you, and therefore be unable to make an informed decision as to whether you are right for each other. Thank you. That is perhaps the truest statement I've ever heard.
witabix Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Thank you. That is perhaps the truest statement I've ever heard. That, BlahBlahQueen, is my pleasure.
witabix Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 I have no problem showing my dark side flaws and all. This is who I am and why should I hide it. Then we agree, we have no need to hide ourselves. I am not happy with all that I am, I try to improve, incrementally and with forethought, who amongst us all is perfect? I am not. But I am perfectly me, and happy to let anyone know me who wants to know me.
Author Woggle Posted January 18, 2006 Author Posted January 18, 2006 Then we agree, we have no need to hide ourselves. I am not happy with all that I am, I try to improve, incrementally and with forethought, who amongst us all is perfect? I am not. But I am perfectly me, and happy to let anyone know me who wants to know me. All of us are somewhat screwed up but I have the balls to admit it.
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