miss_tac9999 Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 Ok, mine is a woefully pathetic tale, that you have heard before form other people. But I met this guy online, we spoke for a few months, we developed feelings for each other and started “dating”, spoke to each other for 8hrs of the day (yes I have the phone bill to prove it – I’m an idiot) then online all night. Last week I realised I was getting to emotionally invested (talking moving, meeting families, making plans for the future etc) considering we hadn’t met in real life. I flew 1000km to see him, it started out fine, we spent the night together, and then spent the next day together. Things between us were strained at time, great at others. This wasn’t what we had planned…and he’s a quiet person/emotionally distant and needs to figure things out, and I was freaking out and annoyed him by asking if this relationship was going to work. When I went to catch my plane, he was very nice about everything, and then text me and said he was still in love with me, even after our day together. We spoke briefly when I got home, then I didn’t hear from him the next day (which was a first in three months). So when I got online, he was still hardly talking to me so I told him that it wasn’t even worth continuing. I texted him the next day and said that I was sorry about the way I behaved, I was just upset that he didn’t talk to me and suggested we be friends. He talked to me a few days later online (despite us both being online before then, but I didn’t want to push him anymore than I had). The convo was strained, and kinda awkward…and just ended. We both have been online since then, but I haven’t made an attempt to talk to him because I think he doesn’t want to talk to me. I left him once msg online during this time saying that I was sorry about everything and still wanted to be friends because I thought that we got along too well for it to be a waste, and got no reply. Should I just leave it all? I don’t know how to read his actions, but I am assuming he just wants me go away (because I’m a fatalist) Any advice before I make an even more idiot of myself…
Ezydriver Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 If your physical side of the relationship became as 'strained' as you say after just one day, and you're 1000km away, then my advice to you is to leave it. Trust me, it doesn't look like its going to work. Steve.
beangirl46 Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 Maybe he needs some time to reply. You said he was a quiet, emotionally distant type-- Perhaps those types need longer to digest things and reply. Maybe you should just take no further action for 1 week, and see what happens, as excruciating as that might be. . .
Author miss_tac9999 Posted January 17, 2006 Author Posted January 17, 2006 If your physical side of the relationship became as 'strained' as you say after just one day... I honestly think it was strained just because we hadnt spent time together alone, and I dont mean sexually, just being together in public. When we later spoke I said I had screwed up things going there and he just said I made them "real" and that "we should take one day at a time". (Thats when I freaked out, a bit because I knew he was addmiting that he didnt think it would work)
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