How do you keep the spark alive in a long-distance relationship?

[Scarlett321]

Hey everyone

I’ve been in a long-distance relationship for a while now, and while we’re doing okay overall, I’ve noticed it’s getting harder to keep that same emotional closeness and excitement we had at the start. Between busy schedules and time zone differences, sometimes our calls feel more like check-ins than real connection.

I’d love to hear what’s worked for others, how do you keep things fun, meaningful, and intimate when you’re apart? Do you plan regular visits, surprise each other, or have specific “date night” traditions online?

Any ideas or stories would be super appreciated

[Sanch62]

How long have you been long distance?

What are your plans to close the distance gap, and when?

Is this someone you've met in person, and how often do you see one another?

[glows]

Planning regular visits helped bc you have something to look forward to. Some game together/video games and it helps to bridge that interaction you’d otherwise have in person. I haven’t done that but a family member did with his now wife. I think what you’re experiencing is fairly universal in any relationship past the honeymoon stages even in person. It can feel like a routine.

Do you sense that your partner is not making enough of an effort? Why do the check ins bother you? They’re still a form of communication but as a relationship plateaus and becomes more established it’s not always going to be highly emotionally charged. Healthy relationships do settle into a gentle ebb and flow and that consistency is gold