[20M] Need advice about my relationship with my girlfriend [19F]

[fikfgkmgthdd]

Hi, I’m 20 and I need some advice about my relationship.

 

I’ve been dating my girlfriend, who is 19, for about 7 months. We’ve known each other for 15 years. Recently, I noticed that she’s been acting differently. When I asked her about it, she told me that she feels our relationship is hurting her, especially after some small arguments we’ve had.

 

This really hurt me because I truly love her and want her to be my future wife. I’ve always tried my best in this relationship — making changes for us, working on myself, going to church more often even though I didn’t before, giving gifts, and showing her how much I care.

 

We also have a mutual friend, and my girlfriend spoke with her. The friend told me that my girlfriend doesn’t want to give up on us. Still, I feel really confused by her mixed signals — sometimes she’s affectionate, but other times she treats me like I don’t matter. It feels like an emotional rollercoaster.

 

I really want to have a better and honest conversation with her, but I’m not sure how to approach it. I love her deeply, and if it doesn’t work out, I hope that someday I can love someone as much as I love her.

 

Could you give me advice on how to improve this situation or whether I should keep trying?

 

TL;DR: I’m 20M, my girlfriend is 19F. We’ve known each other for 15 years and have been dating for 7 months. She said the relationship is hurting her but also told a friend she doesn’t want to give up on us. I love her deeply but I’m confused by her mixed signals. I need advice on how to handle this.

[Sanch62]

What were the arguments about?

[MsJayne]

On 10/7/2025 at 9:58 AM, fikfgkmgthdd said:

she told me that she feels our relationship is hurting her, especially after some small arguments we’ve had.

You'll need to elaborate please. What do you call a small argument? How is she being hurt?