Mika_desu Posted October 6 Posted October 6 TL;DR at the end if you're lazy Here’s a fun fact: I’ve never had a crush before. Like, never. I've always thought a “crush” was just admiring someone platonically with no actual desire to date them. But that changed this summer when I met this one guy. So, this guy — let’s call him Beanstalk because he’s tall af — and I have been friends for some time now. We met in a musical theater workshop last June. He’s kinda famous from where I live (Like, you can literally Google his name and articles pop up ), and I’m just some random kid from the capital lol. Also, for context, we have a long-distance relationship — he lives about a two-hour drive away from me. During the summer workshop, we had so many moments together. One time, we were sitting next to each other and he randomly started playing a love song on the piano — singing it, too — and kept turning his head and smiling at me. This was caught on camera, trust me. My camera was standing on the edge of the piano, recording the whole thing. His voice cracked, he laughed all shy, and said, “I went out of tune. Sorry lah,” while I died inside. Later, I randomly started singing one of the songs from our play, and he immediately played along on the piano like he had telepathy. And when I sang his solo part, he laughed with this smile that could cure depression fr. Then, when his friend told him to play an outro before we went down to eat, I randomly sang Careless Whisper and bro tried not to laugh. There’s also this part where he told me, “Alright. Let’s test your instincts on the piano,” meaning he’d play a note and I’d guess it. Then he goes, “Close your eyes,” and I panicked, covering my face instead. We both burst out laughing, and when it was his turn, he messed up and went, “Oh s***." I was crying-laughing. We were literally chaotic energy personified. Fast forward — workshop ended. He friend-requested me on socmed, asked for the videos I took, and tagged me in his post saying "Thank you @[my name] for the vid!” Weeks later, I found a candid photo of him on my camera playing the piano inside the studio, sent it to him, and BEFORE I EVEN FINISHED TYPING MY MESSAGE, he already saw it, hearted it, and said, “Whoa, thanks!! :)” Like sir… are you waiting for me to message lowkey? My musical theater batch still talks in our GC regularly, even planned a hangout (Beanstalk couldn’t come, but told me to “take care” AIEE—). There were times we switched from GC to pm so we wouldn’t spam, and he’d always be the one to start it. And omg he’s just... such a green flag?? Like genuinely: – super musically talented (piano + singing) and supportive of my singing, dancing, and art – notices my posts and always reacts/views (Literally first viewer) – takes the initiative to chat with me first – never dry, always puts effort into convos – flirty/playful but respectful (Oh, hell yes. I'm telling you this later.) – lowkey protective(?) (Messaged me to “take care” even when he couldn’t come to the hangout. I got sick the day before the showcase of our play, and he PM'd me, saying to get well immediately or else he'll barge into my house and start chanting a prayer to God. When carrying the set pieces for the play, he'd always help me.) – comfortable enough to send selfies, making silly faces (Will talk about this later, heh.) – doesn’t act like he’s “too famous” despite his clout Like HELLO???? Where’s the catch? But after a while, we stopped chatting privately. He’d still react to my posts and view my Stories, but actual convo? Dead since July 21. Tragic. (It’s the first week of October now.) UNTIL last week. I posted this FB Story saying, "A kid at church stole my Potato Corner. I’m so done with Gen Beta,” with a pic of lovely Kenma deadpanning. Nothing serious here. I just found it funny cuz the kid already got it before I could even say he could. And then this man — after TWO MONTHS of silence — pops up in my DMs like, “yooo,” sends a drawing of a buff cat, and goes “girl rate this rq.” I’m sorry, but the TIMING??? He literally saw my Story a few moments before, maybe thought I was upset, and decided, “I’m gonna make her laugh." Coincidence? I think NOT. So I replied, “Help, do you always draw buff cats in your free time? ” We ended up chatting for hours. And not just the basic “hey, hi, hru, good, same,” then silence. Actual conversations (no topic, just chaotic teen energy). He even replied to my random “not me using a knife as a spoon” thought at 12:12 AM with “psychopath ahh.” Like sir, go to sleep. We kept talking the next morning, and the next, and the next — days straight. He started sending selfies reacting to my messages, goofy faces and all. Like, okay, Mister Comfy . Then he started saying funny but borderline sus stuff like “what’s the white stuff” (he meant cookies), and when I said “poison,” he goes “dies cutely.” I hate him . But then. It happened. The kinda flirty moment... He sent smirking cat emojis, I replied with a smirking cat meme, and he went “hmmm;),” then “ayo wait pause” (thank u for being self-aware ). I panicked, replied “WOAH THERE BUDDY,” deleted the messages "for myself." and proceeded to explode internally. Then he asked for my Roblox user (I actually wanted his TikTok, but he was shy to give it — don’t worry, unc, I already found it ). When I told him my user (and mind you, it’s long af and I made it at 8 yrs old), he said, “Awww," and I swear I almost passed out. Then he gave me his Insta (??? like boy, that’s basically your face gallery, why would you just drop that). I excused my phone was at 1% (half lie, half true) cuz I was dying from the chaos. Said “buh bai,” he said “Okayyy,” and we both hearted each other’s messages. And now, every time I talk in the GC, he’s there replying or reacting right away. Like, bro. Are you lurking? Even my mom noticed. She even said once, “You’re waiting for him to message you, huh?” Like, STOP READING MY MIND And believe it or not, she even had a dream about me bringing him home like MA’AM PLEASE NO STOP Oh, and when I asked if he’s joining the workshop again next year, he said, “Maybe, maybe not, depends.” Bro, I’m begging, please say yes. Anyhoo, this is extremely long, but I'd appreciate some advice and your observations based on what I said here. I actually consulted ChatGPT, but I don’t trust it entirely cuz how will an AI robot have experience in this kinda shi ------ TL;DR So yeah. I (teen F) met this guy (teen M, kinda locally famous) in a musical theater workshop last June. We instantly clicked — he’d sing love songs while smiling at me, jam with me on piano, joke around, and overall gave “mutual crush” energy. After the workshop, he added me, tagged me in posts, and would always chat first. Then out of nowhere, he went radio silent for 2 months. Last week, I posted a random FB Story ranting about a kid stealing my food, and suddenly he DMs me with a buff cat drawing saying “rate dis.” Since then, we’ve been talking nonstop for days — he sends selfies, flirts lowkey, and even gave me his Instagram. Every time I talk in our musical theater batch's group chat, he’s the first to reply. I’m not sure if he’s just being friendly or if he genuinely likes me, but all the timing, energy, and effort feel different. Even my mom noticed. So — am I delulu for thinking he might like me, or are there actual signs here?
Sanch62 Posted October 7 Posted October 7 I don't think any strangers can read his mind any better than you, but he certainly doesn't dislike you. 1
flitzanu Posted October 23 Posted October 23 i think the one takeaway here is, you're talking about a theater kid. he's a performer, and most of these scenarios you are describing are him looking at a camera, playing piano to songs you're singing, vocal practice, etc. i think you should be careful trying to read into those things because it sounds like this is being done in front of teams/class/etc and its not like he's just sitting alone serenading you with a love song. it sounds like you have good conversation, but nothing so far has indicated that he's tried to ask you on a date. that's how you're going to know. or you ask him on a date. but you can't be vague, you can't say "lets hang out" or something, you need to frame it as you'd like to go take him on a dinner date, a date to a movie, whatever.
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