1Monte357 Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 Alright well since all my buddies always tell me is chill out and don't think about stuff from the past I just can't. I have been dating my girl for about 5 months now and everything was great. I guess I am starting to fall in love with her because I am starting to care about stuff that before never bothered me. The main problem is I really don't know who she was in the past. Sometimes we get into these weird conversations and she is comfortable talking about how she kissed a girl for money at a party and had a one night stand and stuff like that. Which at first I bit my lip and let slide wondering why the hell would she bring this stuff up. Now granted I have had one night stands and done some stupid stuff in the past but I would never bring it up in normal conversation in fear of upsetting her. Well we were out with friends this Friday night and the topic about girls kissing girls came up again and her one friend started saying how she did it and it was great and this and that. At this point I'm like WTF, not this again. So I started questioning the girls why they would do this because I would never think about kissing another guy because I was curious or wanted to experiment. Then my girl starts saying how it's more socially acceptable for girls to kiss girls (which it is in modern society) but who cares about it being acceptable or not. It should be something you want to do. Like maybe I would have taken it easier if she said she just wanted to see what it was like or something. I'm thinking it is simply an attention getting thing with these girls and they love to drive the guys crazy that they do it in front of or something, I'm not really sure. Now after all this discussion went down I got so mad because I really don't know who this girl was in the past and if her ways have changed. I guess that will come with time. I am probably being way to selfish and stupid for thinking of this stuff but I just wanted to get some input from other people so see if I am the one that's wrong here or is it normal to feel this way? I just don't understand why these girls who say they are not lesbians or bi-sexual will do these trendy bandwagon attention getting things.
RC77 Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 honestly, people want attention. But what is wrong with that? It is more socially acceptable for girls to kiss in party and similar situations. I have had girlfriends and friends do it and they say its just fun to do... and if it doesnt mean anything then what is the problem? Just because she kissed that other girl doesnt mean she has some sort of secret intimate connection with her. You cant change the past, but she hasnt done it since you have been dating right? If she still does it tell her you dont want her to or it makes you uncomfortable (she should be able to respect that because she herself has said its not that big of a deal).
Ouzo Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 i think i know what you mean, you are hoping that she isnt like that anymore because she shouldnt have a reason to want attention from anyone else but you, this sounds selfish but i think is reasonable, if she is the type of girl that craves attention from other guys, even if its just playful, it doesnt seem like she is right for someone like you who gets very jealous over stuff like that, i understand you have been with her for a few months but that is when you really start to know how people really are, and sometimes they dont turn out to be the person you want them to.
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