Clevelandfan Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 I'm in a situation where my ex is pregnant by another man, this man was a "friend" of hers and we broke up due to her significant dealings with him that she knew I didn't like. Anyway,..to make a long story short, she had money problems and she got engaged to him quickly and is now pregnant. We've been apart for only 4 months now. Interestingly she is roughly 4 months pregnant. She is now calling and e-mailing me, telling me how she is miserable with him and living in hell and how she is certain that she will not marry him. She is very regretful now. She says there is no passion with him and she wants to be with me as soon as she can get this mess straightened out. She wants to get married to me and get pregnant with my child shortly thereafter So,...my question is this,...Could this really work out in the long run or am I fooling myself to even entertain this idea? Has anyone seen this type of scenerio work out? I don't want to get married and a year or two down the road get divorced and have to pay child support and hardly be able to raise my own kid. Will I be doomed to never be able to trust her again and be miserable,...I believe she lied and cheated during our relationship but she denies it all. Any ideas?
Just Visiting Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 I think you should let this one go. She needs a dad for her child and she is hoping to hook you in with the "happily ever afters". She is not thinking of you, she is thinking of herself. Everyone makes mistakes, but you should haven't have to pay for hers. Sorry man.
Devils Advocate Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 NO, this will never work out. As the previous poster has stated she is looking for a father for her child and you are the next sucker in line. Whether she cheated with him or not is irrelevant, in the space of a few days she went from your bed to another and is now pregnant. This is a mark of willful negligence and unacceptable promiscuity on her part that would be a constant cause of suspicion to you for the rest of your relationship. Ignoring the whole problem of being with a woman with children (a type you should never get involved with) the fact that she betrayed/abandoned you for him and is now trying to abandon/betray AND take away his child and run back to you is a sign that this woman is unworthy of your respect or attention. Think of your best interests here and move on. Break all contact as well, there is nothing to gain from speaking to her again save being dragged into her problems and winding up on the Jerry Springer show. I'm in a situation where my ex is pregnant by another man, this man was a "friend" of hers and we broke up due to her significant dealings with him that she knew I didn't like. Anyway,..to make a long story short, she had money problems and she got engaged to him quickly and is now pregnant. We've been apart for only 4 months now. Interestingly she is roughly 4 months pregnant. She is now calling and e-mailing me, telling me how she is miserable with him and living in hell and how she is certain that she will not marry him. She is very regretful now. She says there is no passion with him and she wants to be with me as soon as she can get this mess straightened out. She wants to get married to me and get pregnant with my child shortly thereafter So,...my question is this,...Could this really work out in the long run or am I fooling myself to even entertain this idea? Has anyone seen this type of scenerio work out? I don't want to get married and a year or two down the road get divorced and have to pay child support and hardly be able to raise my own kid. Will I be doomed to never be able to trust her again and be miserable,...I believe she lied and cheated during our relationship but she denies it all. Any ideas?
morrigan Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 Getting involved in this mess won't change what caused you two to break up previously. She's seeking you out for support and to be a father to her child, due to you being the more responsible of the two candidates (unless you're 100% certain that this child isn't yours.) She needs someone to rescue her from her mistakes, and she thinks you can help. It's more about her needs of the moment, and less about anyone else's feelings. It's bad enough for her that she thinks this way, even worse for the child that will have to live with the consequences of her poor decisions. Whatever happens, she should be getting a DNA test done when the baby is born, so that at least the father is legally responsible.
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