What will the future hold?

[Clevelandfan]

I'm in a situation where my ex is pregnant by another man, this man was a "friend" of hers and we broke up due to her significant dealings with him that she knew I didn't like. Anyway,..to make a long story short, she had money problems and she got engaged to him quickly and is now pregnant. We've been apart for only 4 months now. Interestingly she is roughly 4 months pregnant. She is now calling and e-mailing me, telling me how she is miserable with him and living in hell and how she is certain that she will not marry him. She is very regretful now. She says there is no passion with him and she wants to be with me as soon as she can get this mess straightened out. She wants to get married to me and get pregnant with my child shortly thereafter So,...my question is this,...Could this really work out in the long run or am I fooling myself to even entertain this idea? Has anyone seen this type of scenerio work out? I don't want to get married and a year or two down the road get divorced and have to pay child support and hardly be able to raise my own kid. Will I be doomed to never be able to trust her again and be miserable,...I believe she lied and cheated during our relationship but she denies it all. Any ideas?

[InTheMachine]

I'll keep this short and pointed: RUN. Far away. Fast.

 

When this woman got knocked up and engaged, the universe did you a favor. You could have been stuck with her forever. Now's your chance to bail. She was screwing him four months ago, man ... and probably long before that.

 

Run. Be happy. Find a woman that'll treat you right.

 

Of course, you already know that's the only good advice, right?

 

And i do hope you know that if you take her back and RAISE ANOTHER MAN'S CHILD, she'll just leave you again as soon as she gets bored - just like she's doing right now with her current fiance.

 

She's bad news. Run away. And thank God every day that you got the chance.

 

P.S. FYI: In most jurisdictions, if you raise a child with a partner for some extended period of time, if (when) you break up you could very well end up paying child support until the child turns 18 -- EVEN IF ITS NOT YOUR CHILD. Yep. Look it up.

 

You want to be paying child support for this other guy's kid in five years time? Say, 25% of your paycheck going to the baby your woman conceived with someone else why she was cheating on you? Wouldn't that just suck? Get out while you can.

[Clevelandfan]

Noone has told me any differently,...I will tell her to please not contact me anymore and that she made her decisions already with this guy. Thanks for your opinion.