MaTTTTTT Posted September 30 Posted September 30 I'm 17(M) and l've been talking to this 16 years old girl for the past 2 weeks. We agreed on meeting up for a date on the next Saturday. I have a question about our first date. Is it a good plan for a first date? •First we'll take a walk in a botanical garden then we'll go take a look at the castle that is near from which there is a view of the entire city. Then I plan to take her to a tea house (she likes tea) for tea + some cakes after that we would go for a evening walk alongside the river( I'm not so sure about this part). This all would take around 4 hours. This is what I thought of but I need advice if it's any good or if should change something. I really want her to enjoy it, please give me your opinions.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 1 Posted October 1 Yes, another vote of support for your plan. It sounds wonderful. Enjoy!
Gebidozo Posted October 1 Posted October 1 This sounds like a great plan for a date! Why aren’t you sure about the evening walk alongside the river?
Sony12 Posted October 1 Posted October 1 (edited) It is a good plan. Only hitch up could potentially be your ages. 16 and 17. Hard to say if she would be comfortable with a more grown up version of a date (especially with someone she doesn't know that well yet). A lot of times teenagers are just more comfortable hanging out around the house together or going to another teenagers party together. In anycase you have already put a lot of thought into it so just go with it and see how it goes and how she responds. It doesn't sound like what you have planned would be that expensive. Which something to keep in mind when dating. Edited October 1 by Sony12
smackie9 Posted October 4 Posted October 4 Always make sure you have a plan B or C if things change the course of your date. She may want to go see or do something else so have suggestions at the ready.
MsJayne Posted October 4 Posted October 4 Sounds like a nice day out, I'm impressed by how much thought you've put into it. I hope it goes really well for you .
Sanch62 Posted October 4 Posted October 4 On 9/30/2025 at 1:54 PM, MaTTTTTT said: Then I plan to take her to a tea house (she likes tea) for tea + some cakes after that we would go for a evening walk alongside the river( I'm not so sure about this part). This all would take around 4 hours. It's good to have potential steps in place. I would check in with her between each before assuming she's okay with the next.
glows Posted October 5 Posted October 5 If this is my daughter I don’t like the rural castle idea. How far out is it and is it still in a public and populated park? Same with the river walk. Think about safety and stay within public and well populated areas, keep things respectful and be a gentleman especially if she is uncomfortable with anything. This is just a first date. Very nice ideas but there’s always time for a second, third, fourth and dear god life stretches on. No need to rush. Enjoy and hope you both have fun and stay safe.
basil67 Posted October 5 Posted October 5 I think it sounds wonderful, but I'd save it for the second date. Keep the first date shorter as it's more about getting the vibe of how well you get along with each other IRL. Of course, you can extend the first date if it's going really well, but don't be in a situation where you're stuck with each other if conversation is like pulling teeth
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