Are his feelings valid

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend overreacted after he saw my friend who is a female's profile picture. The whatsapp profile picture it's a man and he is a famous athlete. My friend tried to call me and I couldn't hear her. So I opted to text, so I had to go to my whatsapp call history. Tapped on her profile in order to text her, that's when he said I was talking to a man. All my friend wanted from was to give her alternative number to call home in order to drop off my younger brother's food. As we speak he blocked me

[Gebidozo]

I don’t know whether your boyfriend’s feelings were “valid” or not, I’m sure they were valid to him, i.e. he wasn’t pretending to be a jealous, possessive control freak.

The important thing here is that he blocked you, thus sparing you the time and the effort required to break up with him.

[ExpatInItaly]

He can feel however he wants, OP. 

However, I would not date someone who behaves the way he did. It's immature and punitive. That would be all I needed to know to realize he is not a man I want in my life. 

[Anonymous]

38 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

He can feel however he wants, OP. 

However, I would not date someone who behaves the way he did. It's immature and punitive. That would be all I needed to know to realize he is not a man I want in my life. 

That's true because he ruined his birthday. He is jealous and impulsive. If I use my phone he thinks I am chatting with men.I have given him assurance that it's him alone. He never accorded me the opportunity to explain and left the restaurant and left my clothes outside his apartment.

[Anonymous]

59 minutes ago, Gebidozo said:

I don’t know whether your boyfriend’s feelings were “valid” or not, I’m sure they were valid to him, i.e. he wasn’t pretending to be a jealous, possessive control freak.

The important thing here is that he blocked you, thus sparing you the time and the effort required to break up with him.

He was obviously jealous and impulsive.  He has trust issues and he didn't give me an opportunity to explain or try to call whilst we are still together. When I tried to explain by email, he says why wait after hours to explain. It means I have asked my friend to lie on my behalf.

[Gebidozo]

8 hours ago, Anonymous said:

If I use my phone he thinks I am chatting with men.I have given him assurance that it's him alone.

Why would you even think of being together with a possessive person who controls you to such degree that you can’t even chat with whomever you like to?

Just forget about him and find a normal man who wouldn’t bother you with insane jealousy.

 

[Anonymous]

10 hours ago, Gebidozo said:

Why would you even think of being together with a possessive person who controls you to such degree that you can’t even chat with whomever you like to?

Just forget about him and find a normal man who wouldn’t bother you with insane jealousy.

 

Perhaps I was blinded by love or trauma bond. I pray I find courage to get over him and be with someone who wouldn't treat me as such.

[Acacia98]

2 hours ago, Anonymous said:

I pray I find courage to get over him and be with someone who wouldn't treat me as such.

You have it within you already, OP.

[Anonymous]

4 minutes ago, Acacia98 said:

You have it within you already, OP.

Thanks, I will try to fight to get over him

[ExpatInItaly]

On 9/30/2025 at 6:22 AM, Anonymous said:

If I use my phone he thinks I am chatting with men.I have given him assurance that it's him alone. He never accorded me the opportunity to explain and left the restaurant and left my clothes outside his apartment.

This is ridiculous behaviour on his part, 

I would have nothing further to do with him. He treats you terribly. How long have you been tolerating this, and why do you think you have gone along with it? 

[Anonymous]

18 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

This is ridiculous behaviour on his part, 

I would have nothing further to do with him. He treats you terribly. How long have you been tolerating this, and why do you think you have gone along with it? 

17 months already, I don't even know why I have tolerated this further.  Perhaps trauma bond.I have realized that I can't take it anymore. I am friendly by nature and with him, I couldn't interact with males without him assuming I am flirting.