Crush playing games or she is interested?

[TeddyBundy1993]

Hi all!

I am 32 year old male, and got depressed from the past one month due to strange behaviour from my work crush. 

I'd try to keep it brief I joined this organisation in 2023 and this girl is currently 23 years old she had a boyfriend at work( although none of them admitted)This year her bf left for another organisation in May, and she becomes my senior to whom I am reporting now, given her extrovert nature she speaks to everyone at work and is fun. This month she came to me with a note saying "need to talk to you personally" followed by heart and arrow and I asked her if she was serious? She asked me show my WhatsApp to her and how many women I talk to. I showed and there were very less with no romantic chats. Then she asked me to take her on a drive and asked me questions like why I haven't married yet? (Being single at 32 in my country is almost a stigma) Do I pick up prostitutes since I do not have a girlfriend. Later on after I told her about my last relationship and insisted to tell me if she is interested in me she told me she was playing a prank by handing over that note to me. She has often asked me what kind of physical aspects I want in girl to which I have replied matching hers. I know she's in serious relationship but her actions are strange with me she knows I like her and other young dudes like her too at work. 

Lately I have got to know she is about to leave the organisation we work in. Shall I approach directly? Is 9 years age gap too much ? Or she is just looking for validation or attention from me because in the past 2 years since I have joined this organisation and her boyfriend was working with us she barely came to talk to me maybe she's lonely. It's only after that she is coming to me to talk. I am confused and don't understand how to deal with this I am frustrated and need insight on how to proceed I really like her, or should I buy this and move on.

[Gebidozo]

Why would you be interested in a woman who played such a cruel prank on you?

I wouldn’t even continue to speak with a woman who pretended to be interested in me and then admitted it was a prank. It’s such a dumb, vulgar, and hurtful thing to do.

It’s particularly offensive and immoral when done by someone who is in a relationship.

Your crush on her should disappear immediately after she’s shown you her true face. If it doesn’t, then restoring your self respect and your confidence would be the first issues to think about.

Block her and move on.

[ExpatInItaly]

7 hours ago, TeddyBundy1993 said:

Shall I approach directly?

Why are you attracted to someone who was so rude and disrespectful to you? Normal adult don't do things like this: 

7 hours ago, TeddyBundy1993 said:

she told me she was playing a prank by handing over that note to me.

Please, value yourself more and don't waste time on nonsense like this. 

[TeddyBundy1993]

15 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Why are you attracted to someone who was so rude and disrespectful to you? Normal adult don't do things like this: 

Please, value yourself more and don't waste time on nonsense like this. 

So you think she doesn't have anything for me ? I want to stay away but I have a crush on her from the past 1 year and it's hard to move on from it I have tried a lot and lately after her games I am more confused.

[ExpatInItaly]

4 hours ago, TeddyBundy1993 said:

So you think she doesn't have anything for me ?

No, I don't think she has genuine interest in you. 

4 hours ago, TeddyBundy1993 said:

I want to stay away but I have a crush on her from the past 1 year and it's hard to move on from it

What have you tried doing to help yourself move on? 

Edited September 29 by ExpatInItaly

[Sanch62]

If you report to her on your job, there's nothing professional, ethical, or legal about anything she's said or done. Do you care about that at all?

[TeddyBundy1993]

13 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

No, I don't think she has genuine interest in you. 

What have you tried doing to help yourself move on? 

Well I don't speak to her at all until and unless it's professional work. Other than that only she comes and speak to me. I have been fantatsing a lot after she played this prank but now I kind of know nothing can happen between us. So I'll go no contact with her. Anything you could suggest me will be surely welcomed.