lilmoma1973 Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 Hey all i know you are wondering about my counseling session with my daughter and how it went so thought i would share it with you!! My daughter and i went without h and boy was i glad cause if he asked me something about things h would have gotten mad.. He would have denied anything he done.. I told the couselor how i was concerned with my daughter's temper and lashing out .. Counselor asked had she ever seen h 's temper before and i said yes.. Then daughter went and did things while we chatted gave a background on things and then daughter came and keep being persistant and interrupting us and finally i had it!! I raised up from the couch and told her she needed to go sit down she was being very rude.. The counselor said that my eyes change and daughter knew i meant buisness.. He asked what made me act that way ,and i said she pushed my limit and he said good that is parenting .. The counselor said that the reason she is acting this way cause it is working and she isn't liking it!! He said i was being too nice and need to be more mean and firm .. I asked him was that wrong the way i acted and he said no that is what you are suppose to do? He said as long as me and the h wasn't on the same page it was going to cause conflict with both kids .. He wants to schedule an appt for me and h without daughter so he can discuss disciplining these kids and being on the same page!! I have to make the appt with him finding out what is good for him with work ..Hope h doesn't be a a@@ like he has in past before with our marriage counselor. It really went well and can notice a difference in her attitude and doesn't interrupt me anymore just hope it lasts ..
Barby Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 I've read but not commented on your other posts...I just wanted to say "congradulations" and good luck in the future.
Author lilmoma1973 Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 Thanks Barby you can read my other posts that i made and the people on here suggested that i get her into couseling to help get to the root of the problem with her behavior and being angry ! THANKS TO ALL for the advice given glad i took her to counseling it has helped and only been one day..
Lil Honey Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 Congratulations, Lilmoma. I know how frustrated you've been with this issue. Your husband seems to generally leave when he doesn't like what the counselor is saying, which tells me that the counselor is hitting a sore spot - and is probably right - and is making your husband uncomfy, because he is having to face the truth. He leaves because it's easier to do than work on fixing something.
Author lilmoma1973 Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 Yeah your right Lil honey, h doesn't want to own up to his faults!! We all have faults but admitting them is the key to success.. I hope that when we make the appt he will come back so we can continue to work this through!! He didn't come to this one it was just me and daughter next time it will be just us .. Counselor said that it just needed to be us and haley needed a baby sittter.. He said that will be the first step to her getting over this not wanting to stay with anyone..I just wanted all you to know that if it wasn't for people on here giving me the advice to go ,i would be still dealing with her attitude .. She has changed since the appointment. She says excuse me mommy when she needs something!! He did emphasize that h needed to quit rebutting what i said to her!! Saying i was arguing with her and he does this with ss too.. Hope things change and if not i have to make the decision to stay or go cause i can't continue with the battle anymore!! Either he be on the same page or we do it alone..
IceQueen22 Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 Glad you all are seeking counseling for this. My question is what are your plans if after all this counseling your husband still isn't willing to put forth the effort to do his part as far as helping you with discipline? Do you feel he will hold up his end and deal with whatever issues are going on?
Outcast Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 Hopefully the counsellor is smart enough to know how to deal with people like your h who don't like to face their own faults and will be able to speak to him in a way he'll accept.
Author lilmoma1973 Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 Yeah and I can't wait till that meeting to see exactly what he will say to my h . He basically told me what i had been telling h all along!! We both need to be on the same page with discipling or it won't work with the kids ..
Author lilmoma1973 Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 Glad you all are seeking counseling for this. My question is what are your plans if after all this counseling your husband still isn't willing to put forth the effort to do his part as far as helping you with discipline? Do you feel he will hold up his end and deal with whatever issues are going on? Yeah he knows that he has to deal with the problem or im gone that is what i told him when i suggested this after my post and LS agreed that would be the best thing for us all!! He asked me each day had i made the appt and i said that waiting on a call .. The counselor called got in touch with me in no time and made the appt.. I hope my h follows through with what he says with the kids but we will see!!
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