ZiggyWasHere5050 Posted September 19 Posted September 19 So basically I’ve been in this relationship for 9 months this month, it’s been absolutely amazing, until the last few months. I moved in because we both had financial problems, so boom roommates. We live together. And now we’ve been fighting almost daily. I don’t remember the last day we didn’t have a fight. It’s gotten to the point we get in screaming matches. And I love him so so much. At least I thought i did. I keep looking at other people, and wonder what my life might’ve been like if I was dating them instead. I wouldn’t have to fight him to do chores, tidying up after himself, etc. I feel like when I’m not working, I’m cooking and then cleaning. And if I’m for once not cooking, I’m cleaning up after him. I’ve grown so exhausted and I don’t think I feel good being with him anymore? When I look at him I don’t feel happy or good. I just feel pure resentment. What do I do?
Els Posted September 19 Posted September 19 I'm trying to think of a single reason why you shouldn't leave, and... I can't find it. Literally not a single one. He's not behaving like a loving partner, or even a decent roommate (roommates pick up after themselves). You have only been together for 9 months, you're not married, and you don't own a house together or have kids together. So... what exactly is stopping you from leaving? 1
stillafool Posted September 19 Posted September 19 3 hours ago, Els said: So... what exactly is stopping you from leaving? I agree. You're arguing daily and you've become his mother if you have to cook for him and clean up behind him constantly. I would be turned off too. Why are you still there?
Sanch62 Posted September 19 Posted September 19 There are plenty of options in the world for another roommate, small studio, room in a boarding house--I'd even consider couch surfing over staying with a guy who'd choose to fight and make my life hell rather than pick up his own underwear. Contact your local hospital's human services department for a referral to a women's shelter counselor who can help you make a plan to get out of this. There may also be other resources available to loan what you need to liberate yourself.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 20 Posted September 20 This would be all the confirmation I need that this is not the right relationship for me. I would strongly urge you to make your exit plan. 2
smackie9 Posted September 23 Posted September 23 This dude is a dud. This has nothing to do with you...he just can't live with someone because he has trouble sharing his space. Just the way he is. He has a little more growing up to do is all. You need to get out of there.
glows Posted September 24 Posted September 24 Doesn’t sound like much of a partner and you seem checked out. Make sure your finances are in order and move. It’s the natural end of the relationship. 1
MsJayne Posted September 27 Posted September 27 You're living with a spoiled 12 year old. You need to find alternative accommodation and make your escape.
LoveAndPassports Posted September 29 Posted September 29 You didnt move in for love....you moved in for convenience (finances). It can turn into love, or it can blow up in both of your faces, but it was risky from the start. If you want it to work, you'll both need more patience. Combining 2 humans, and their good/bad habits, is always complex..potential love or not.
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