My wife is lying to me

[LXMii]

We’ve been together for 25 years. We’ve had our ups and downs and nearly separated years ago. I was admittedly not the best husband. I worked a lot and struggled with alcohol. I realized what I was doing to us and turned myself around. When we were going through a tough time, she had a guy friend I caught her lying to me about texting. When I asked if she was talking to him she said no, even though I had phone logs that proved otherwise. We got past that years ago and we were in a better place , or at least I thought so. Last week we were taking about this friend of hers and his current marriage issues, and I asked if they talked that day. ( they still keep in touch and have been friends for years). I saw them texting that morning so I already knew they had talked, but when I asked she said no. A day or so later I asked her why she lied and she said she forgot that they spoke. She apologized and said it was an honest mistake but my gut says otherwise. I have no real friends to talk to and I’m honestly lost right now. I feel crushed and hurt. 

[Sony12]

Do you suspect they could be seeing each other or do you just not want her to talk to other men?

[LXMii]

11 minutes ago, Sony12 said:

Do you suspect they could be seeing each other or do you just not want her to talk to other men?

I want her to be honest. I don’t have hangups about her having guy friends. I have hangups about lying to me about it. She knows I don’t care, but when she lies it makes me think there’s more to it. Maybe there isn’t but that’s hard to trust. 

Edited 53 minutes ago by LXMii