What would you do if?

[Gebidozo]

6 hours ago, CollinW said:

I wouldn't want a woman who feels the urge to sleep with other men after initiating a romantic connection with me. 

That’s not what happened here, though. She had no-strings-attached sex with the OP, and the same thing with another guy. Only afterwards did things get serious with the OP. You make it sound like she first had some commitment with the OP and then cheated on him.

[Alpacalia]

OP, this just means that your emotional investment started earlier than hers.

You were already seeing the potential for something deeper, while she was still in a more exploratory phase.

Can you accept that her emotional investment caught up later, and that she’s been committed since?

If she gave you the impression that the encounter happened before you met, and only later clarified that it was during the early phase of your dating…then it’s completely understandable that you feel misled. Even if the act itself wasn’t a betrayal, the change in narrative can feel like one.