incognito Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 Two years, I have never been closer to anyone in my entire life, we didn't just have an online relationship...we've met in person, many times, we live 3 hours apart...so we've always got together and met in the middle. Red Flag #1...refuses to so much as give you his address, let alone invite you to his house, despite the fact he's been to mine and met my kids. Red Flag #2....only gives you his cell #...only stupid girls believe that it's the only phone they have. Red Flag #3...committment...I wasn't expecting to fall in love w/ you, it's too much too soon, you have a lot of issues that need to be worked on before we can be together 100%, etc...excuses. 4 am, he called me, we've been on the phone about an hour already, he's telling me that I am the only one in 32 yrs who's treated him so well, and how much he loves me, and, ironically, that I will have to cut ties w/ a male friend if we are to be together because him and I are "just too close". His wife walks in and asks who he's talking to. He hangs up. end of story 1
ReluctantRomeo Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 His wife walks in and asks who he's talking to. He hangs up. end of story Aww honey, I'm so sorry. I'm guessing that any advice on my part would be superfluous, so here's a big hug (((( )))) 1
Author incognito Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 Nope...no advice needed. I am in utter shock at the moment. But, not surprised really, I had a gut feeling, however, denial is such a wonderful thing isn't it? All lessons worth learning are difficult ones I suppose.
ReluctantRomeo Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 denial is such a wonderful thing isn't it? No kidding All lessons worth learning are difficult ones I suppose. Now this is exciting What have you learned?
Author incognito Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 Well...I guess a major one, is to trust your gut. I can't even say hindsight is 20/20 because...I saw the signs and didn't believe it could be true. I am sure there are more, but I'm completely in shock at the moment and that's kind of what's coming up in my head at the moment. Wow...this is so crazy. I am completely in love w/ this person. I haven't cried yet. I really am in shock.
Author incognito Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 Know what's funny? One of his excuses for being so quiet about himself and "private" was that his other major relationship....the whole time he was seeing his girlfriend, who he was completely in love w/, she was engaged to someone else. Go figure.
ReluctantRomeo Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 the whole time he was seeing his girlfriend, who he was completely in love w/, she was engaged to someone else. Whew. That's incredibly messed up behaviour. You're better off without him.
dgiirl Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 I must confess that the way you wrote the story made me laugh. I'm sorry this happen to you tho. Sucks the big one, but it's better to know it now than getting any deeper #2 COULD be true. I have lots of friends who only have cell phones. However, the real issue is learning to trust your gut instinct. It's a good lesson to learn! Difficult, but good.
Author incognito Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 I must confess that the way you wrote the story made me laugh. I'm sorry this happen to you tho. Sucks the big one, but it's better to know it now than getting any deeper #2 COULD be true. I have lots of friends who only have cell phones. However, the real issue is learning to trust your gut instinct. It's a good lesson to learn! Difficult, but good. It doesn't get much deeper than this. Seriously...we have discussed kids and marriage!!! For all I know...he could already have kids!!!!
dgiirl Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 Of course it could get deeper. You could have walked down the isle. You could have had KIDS _with_ him. You could have married him and never knew he was already married. You could have shared bank accounts only to have him steal all your money. You could have wasted another day on him!
sadfriend Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you! People need to be so careful in any relationship but definitely if the person is a long distance away (even 3 hours away) and you met them online. Even if a person has met their online friend or love in person they have to be sooooooo careful and look sooooo close for red flags. People that you met online can hide so much from you if they wanted to. And like a lot of us do whether we are in a relationship that we live close to each other or even long distance away from each other, we tend to let our hearts run things even when our brian is telling us that there is a red flag! We become in denial cause we let our heart tell our brain that, "No, he/she would not do that to me because they like/love me." And we end up ignoring that red flag that could have possibly prevented some of the heart ache on us. Like they say, "LOVE IS BLIND!" Isn't that SOOOOO true?
Author incognito Posted January 16, 2006 Author Posted January 16, 2006 He says it was him mom!!!!! LOLOL if that was his mom who walked in and asked who he was talking to...and he wasn't doing anything wrong why did he hang up immediately? If it was his mom, why wouldn't he say just a minute mom, hey hon...I gotta talk to my mom (at 4:30 in the morning), we'll chat tomorrow
Brittanyjean06 Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 yeah i have to admit the story makes me giggle only because you set it up in a funny way. and i can just picture that fool- im sorry that happen though, you really should have trusted your gut instincts, but i meen when you fall for someone...you get indenial and your like naw couldent happen. but it can happen sorry
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